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Hanging Out in the Balance

Published:Sunday | July 3, 2016 | 7:00 AMKrysta Anderson

I consider myself particularly lucky to have been blessed with two very hardworking, dedicated, and loving parents: both of whom brought home the bacon and made caregiving when it came to their children a full-time responsibility. But for as long as I could remember, most weekends, my mother in particular would say, "It's Friday, so you know what that means? Call your father. And if it is an emergency, still call your father. Today is Mommy's day."

Now why was having down time so important to my mother? Well because, according to her, she needed to do adult things like get her hair or nails done, get a massage, visit a happy hour after work, go on a girl's night out, or even go on a date with Dad - to which the rule of only calling him in case of emergencies still applied.

I never understood it until I got older and took pleasure in indulging in those weekly festivities. For me, it meant hitting pause on the harsh realities of your world, letting your hair down, relaxing and just having fun. Her reason for still keeping this up? She actually attributes this trend to her timeless beauty.

Now, I can only imagine what working moms have to go through trying to balance the responsibilities in the office with those at home. So I have asked a few of our mothers how they find their balance and enjoy some me time.

When my daughter is either spending time at her grandmother's house, or has gone to bed, I like to unwind by curling up in my chair, drinking some wine and watching some Netflix. Just dim the lights, get lost in a movie or series and bask in my alone time. It's heavenly to me.

- S.R., 31

I don't exactly have down time but when I steal it, I tell everybody don't knock on my door, don't bother me, no questions, and lock myself in my room. From there, I'll turn on the television and have it watch me. Otherwise, I love the movies and cooking, so I'll plan a movie date with hubby or I'll cook and make a special dinner for just the two of us.

- J.W., 24

I actually unwind by not thinking about the children every minute of every day. I love my wine and a good book - so my favourite glass of Pinot Grigio or Riesling is the best way. Or I'll binge watch something with my wine.

- I.W., 33.

If I'm at home, there is honestly no unwinding. But every now and then, I try to go out with my girlfriends. Nothing loud, just dinner and a movie. When my baby is asleep, I sometimes have a glass of wine, if I have it, and watch YouTube: that's my kind of thing.

- K.H., 30

It doesn't even feel like I unwind even when I try, just knowing that we have to go back for the baby, that just doesn't make you want to stay out late. I do get some down time by having date nights - short and sweet, beach days, since we both freelance, and lunch dates with friends. Or just dropping our daughter off just to come back home and sleep in, drink a bottle of wine or watch a movie, is my way to reconnecting with me.

- S.P., 28.

krysta.anderson@gleanerjm.com