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Know Your Worth in Relationships

Published:Sunday | February 26, 2017 | 12:00 AMKimberly Goodall

You have all been there - feeling or being let down by a friend, a boss, or a lover who has treated you poorly, unfairly or invaluably.

Relationships are not easy, but how do you get what you're worth in your relationships? What value do you place on yourself? The way you answer these questions determine whether you know how much you're worth.

Cameka Taylor, personal development coach and author, shares with Outlook that she once had little to no sense of her value, and did not understand her worth. With that, she got engaged twice to persons who did not hold her in high regard. But after a shocking revelation, Taylor was committed to seeing herself as a prize.

"I'm fearfully and wonderfully made. Whether you believe it or not, I will not settle for less. I'm a pearl of great price. In order to get what you're worth in relationships, you must know you're worth and value," Taylor explains.

Applying these five tips from Taylor will allow a change in your relationships and a difference in the people who influence your life.

1 Understand and know your value. The understanding of self-worth is the beginning of progress. You must first be able to identify yourself and know what you're worth. Know what you have to offer in your relationships and be self-aware.

2 Set high standards. Make a list of your values and morals so that you are reminded of the thing you hold in high regard. When you are committed to keeping those standards, whomever you come in contact with will know your worth and that you are non-negotiable. Also, when you have high standards, anyone who wants to be part of your life has to have similar standards.

3 Love and appreciate yourself. When you tie your confidence and love in a person, you are likely to take or settle for anything. But when you find acceptance and approval in yourself, you will have better judgement in your relationship. Also, do not be eager to get into a relationship but spend time learning about yourself until the right person comes along.

4 Know your mission and purpose. In learning about yourself and your value, you will then be able find your mission and purpose in life. With that, anyone who you accept in your life will have to be a part of that purpose or be willing to help you work towards that mission. Your mission and purpose will also determine what you'll say yes or no to, so establish a strong sense of purpose.

5 Accountability. It is important to have some who will hold you accountable for the standards you have set for yourself. These people will be good influences, and offer a sense of protection and structure. They will remind you of your worth and show your partner that they have someone to answer to.