Dear Pastor,
I am sixteen years old and I am a Christian. I met a Christian guy about a month ago and things were going on fine between us.
One night he came to visit me. We were talking in his car. While we were there I saw my stepfather. Where my boyfriend's car was parked was not a secret place and people know us.
My stepfather came to the car, so I got out to see what he wanted. He held on to me and started cursing. My finance' heard the uproar and got out to investigate. He was not pleased, so he drove off in anger.
I do not like my stepfather, not because of what he did that night but from the first time I saw him. I moved out of the house. I do not want anything from him. He sends me to school, but he can stop. My mother does not know what to say. I do not talk to her either.
I love my finance'. He is like a father to me and by the help of God I pray that he will never leave me. He has promised to marry me after I leave school. He is a good, intelligent, respectable and loving person. This guy means everything to me. Since the incident occurred I have not seen him. Please pray for us that we will make it together.
Please tell me what to do. God bless you.
N.E.,
Clarendon
Dear N.E.,
You believe that you are a big woman, so you moved out of your parents home. You believe that it was right for a sixteen year old girl to be sitting in a car and talking to a man who you describe as your finance'. You do not know better.
Your stepfather was angry and in his anger he used indecent language. But that is not the reason why you have left the house. You left your parents house because you are rude and out of order and disrespectful.
You think you know all that a woman should know because a man told you he loves you. And that he will marry you when you leave school. Rubbish, too many guys go fooling up you school girls and talking about marriage. I could imagine how you behaved when you were spoken to. If this man wanted to visit you, he could have come into your yard and could have offered him a chair out there. And you could have introduced him to your parents, but no, you prefer to sit in his car and make yourself common.
Go back to your parents home. If you don't , you may end up living in concubinage with this man or somebody else. You should be very thankful that your stepfather pays for you to go to school. Don't be ungrateful to him.
Pastor
