Dear Pastor,
I am a resident of St. Thomas. I have been living here for many years, and I never realised that children can beat their parents. There is a man who has some children, but he has been living alone for more than 12 years. He did not have a woman. He did his own laundry, cleaned his house and cooked his own meals. So he decided to take a woman.
His children beat the lady and told the father to give them the house keys. When he did not give them, one of them threatened to kill the woman if he sees her in Kingston. The matter was reported to the police, but no arrest was made.
I want the public to know how children in Jamaica treat their parents. Pray for this man and his woman.
M.G, St. Thomas
Dear M.G,
You seem to know quite a bit about this man. You are glad to see him now with a woman. But according to you the children are not very happy about the relationship. You have alleged that they beat the woman. Why would they do that? Were they trying to scare her? Do you believe that she is a threat to them? Is it that they believe that this woman would come in and inherit part of what should come to them?
If indeed they beat the woman and threatened her, they are old enough to know that they can get themselves into serious trouble. I hope that they would leave their father to make his own decisions. Perhaps if they were helping him, he would not see the need to become involved with this woman. Sometimes children believe that they have the right to tell their parents what to do.
On the other hand, some women are glad to seize the opportunity when they see men in need of help. They come into the lives of men, not because they are in love with them, but they are only there because they want to enjoy the sweets. I am sure you know what I mean. I am not throwing stones. I am only telling you the truth. Younger men do the same thing to older women. May God help us all.
Pastor
Young man is fooling with you Pastor
Dear Pastor,
I am a Christian with a big problem.
I met and fell in love with a guy who is 21 years old. I am 19 years old. One day I was at home when he called me and while we were talking he told me he was not well. I asked him what was wrong, and he said he couldn't tell me. I started to wonder what it was. He told me that he had done something wrong. I asked him if he got someone pregnant, but he did not say anything. I did not believe him because we were always teasing each other. He eventually said it was true. He said he was sorry and I asked him why he did it. He said the girl lives in one of the rooms his mother rented to her.
He told me the girl's baby father came from abroad and she found out that he got married there and did not let her know. So at that time she was down, and that is how they got close and they went to bed. At the time it happened we were only talking on the telephone. She found out about us and called me and told me to leave her man alone. I asked him if he is in love with her and he said no he is in love with me. She calls my home and curses me. I love this guy. I have never been in love before until I met him. He told me that he does not want to lose me. He is attending college.
I am working and sending myself back to school. He calls me every day. The girl who is pregnant for him is 25 years old and her child is five years old. I told him that it is over between us because I cannot take the calls from the girl who is pregnant for him. He said he is sorry for putting me through this problem. This girl is upset with him. I am attending church and I am on the choir. I can sing very well and sometimes I sing love songs for him. He keeps on asking me if I love him.
Please pray that both of us will get married when he graduates from college. I am reading my Bible and praying. May God bless you always. St. Catherine.
Dear C,
I believe this young man has assured the young woman who is now pregnant that he loves her and that everything is going to be all right. At the same time he is trying to assure you that he only made a mistake. Why would this girl call you and tell you to leave her man alone? Either he is fooling her, which I doubt very much, or trying to fool you. She is renting from his mother, but that does not mean that because she lives at his mother's house he had to become sexually involved with her. His excuse for getting this woman pregnant is rather poor.
If you are careless, he will get you pregnant too. It seems to be that you are setting yourself up for just that. This is the first time you are falling in love so you are excited, and you are willing to believe any nonsense this man tells you. It would be better for him to continue with the woman who is now pregnant for him, but it does not seem to me that you are willing to let him go. So it is up to you. If you want to continue to sing him love songs and make him feel that you cannot do without him, he is going to get closer and closer to you and then any card can play.
By the way, that 25-year-old woman who is now pregnant is not going to ease up on him. He will not be able to walk in and walk out of her life just like that. I wouldn't be surprised if one day both of you catch up, so to speak, and have a big fight over this man. I can only encourage you to walk carefully. But frankly, I would not pray that both of you get married because I do not believe that this man is being honest with you.
Pastor
Looking for my father, Joseph Dunkley
Dear Pastor,
I am searching for my father, Joseph Dunkley, who is from Coleyville in Manchester. He used to live with a woman by the name of Miss Merle. My mother never took me to meet him.
I am now 24 years old, and I would like to know, not just the relatives on my father's side of relatives, but my father as well.
He has a brother by the name of Jasper Dunkley. My mother's name is Claudette Newland, otherwise known as Dimple. My name is Carlene Dunkley.
If anyone knows him or his whereabouts, please send the information to Dear Pastor.
C.D,
St. Andrew
Dear C.D
Let us hope that your father or someone who knows his whereabouts will respond to your letter. I am sure you would be very happy to hear from him.
Pastor
