By Lovern Hayes, Staff Reporter
SO YOU'RE a little shy about how to turn on your guy. Or maybe you just want to know how to better please him but aren't sure where to start.
Flair asked a number of men to tell us what hits the spot and though they were at first hesitant they eventually let us in on a few secrets. Below we spill the beans on how to turn his bod into a love machine.
HIS TOP 10 HOT SPOTS
Spend some time gently massaging his head. Most men enjoy having their hair stroked and ruffled. Run your fingers through his hair in a circular motion while lightly scratching his scalp. However, the scalp can be sensitive to stimulation, and since he's probably not expecting you to give any attention to it, proceed with care. Or, gently massage his scalp, he'll purr like a big kitten.
The neck is always a great place to turn on your partner. Cover his neck and throat with tender kisses, using the areas under/behind the ears for extra stimulation. Light nibbling and tugging usually work well also. Start with soft and gentle caresses and as he gets into it, increase your tempo. Remember, while you want to have your mouth moist, you do not want to slobber.
One more thing, forego the hickies they're not the in thing anymore so resist the urge to bite and bruise him. Or at least keep the hickies to more private areas if that is what turns you on.
Ladies, there are a bundle of nerve endings in and around the ears, making them ultrasensitive to your touch. Use your index finger and thumb to massage the outer ears with slow very slow but firm movements. Gently squeeze the earlobes...not too hard now, remember the key is to turn him on. Nuzzle his ears. Kiss them. Lick them.
Next, explore the area behind the ear with your lips or tongue, then blow lightly. Don't be shy about making noise while you're lingering there the sound of your breath and moans is a huge turn on for most men.
For many men the chest is a favourite body part. Massage it and occasionally whisper how much you love its hardness (especially if he works out).
While lavishing kisses up and down his chest, tweak his nipples between your fingers. As your sweetie becomes more turned on, suck each nipple for a minute, then remove your mouth and blow on the moist surface gently.
6. CREASE IN HIS THIGH
Press your thumb gently into one crease, massaging your way from his hip to the inner thigh. Continue caressing him here while kissing him on the inside of his thigh. Or, trail the tip of your fingers along the crevice in the direction of his penis until they touch the underside of his testicles. Pause to press his perineum gently a few times, then sweep your fingers up the other crease. Do the same with the tip of your tongue, it'll drive him wild.
Remember how turned on you get when your guy plays with your lips, teasing, nibbling, and sucking them? Return the favour, men also crave kisses. But don't go for the lip lock right away, gently brush your lips against his at first, then increase the tempo as you graze then suck on one lip then the other. Use your imagination.
Remember, kissing lets him know that there is more good stuff ahead. You know what we mean.
4. HIS TREASURE TRAIL
Trace a vertical line from his navel down to where his pubic hair begins. You can also use your tongue to lap, lick, or nibble along this divine divide. Changing directions will also send him into orgasmic overdrive trace a horizontal line across his abdomen from one hip to the other.
The perineum is the area between the scrotum and the anus. You may not believe it, but some men do enjoy having this part of their body fondled. Tickle him, tantalise him with ever so gentle caresses using your finger tips and strokes of your tongue, then watch his tortured but ecstatic response.
To create another kind of sensation, use a bit of lubricant or massage oil. You may also want to try vigorously massaging the perineum just prior to orgasm, this gives many men a rush of pleasure.
The scrotum is the sac that holds the testicles, it's a very sensitive and fragile part of a man's body. Applying too much pressure to the testicles will cause immense pain, so whatever you do, be gentle. Lightly fondle your man's testicles gently in one hand, then lightly suck or lick the scrotum. For the more adventurous women, try getting both testicles in your mouth and hum. Trust us, you'll have him growling like a lion in the wild.
...and the number one hot spot for men is,
1. THE HEAD OF THE PENIS
Well, no surprise here, this is the pinnacle of stimulation for a man. This purplish, mushroom shaped mass at the top of his penis is THE most sensitive part of his body. While the entire shaft is sensitive the head definitely takes the crown. The men we spoke to say they particularly like having the head of their gland kissed, licked and sucked. Let's be honest, the only way you can go wrong here is by being too rough. So, play, stroke, nibble, caress don't attack and you'll have him eating out of the palm of your hand.
Keep in mind that the head is more sensitive if it has a foreskin.
HOT SPOT RUNNER-UP
The buttocks are a runner-up in this hit parade. Give them a mini massage using a firm kneading motion. Another cheek-pleaser: Run your nails along his backside and tickle the spot where his back and buttocks meet.
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