By Nordia Henry, Staff ReporterTHIS ARTICLE stems from an argument I overheard recently at a favourite hangout spot where one hears all kinds of things especially ladies who like to chat their private business. Personally, I don't mind overhearing these conversations because they get me thinking about another possible article.
On that day, these ladies were talking about men and how insensitive or annoying they can be during the sex act. Well, the conversation went something like this men need to remember that all women are not the same. Some women like aggressive sex and there's nothing wrong with that, but no woman likes brute force or the kind of man that doesn't pay attention to minor details. For instance, while in the missionary position, women don't like it when men lean on their hair with their elbows, it makes us feel like we are getting a 'discount face-lift'.
BREASTS ARE NOT TOYS
ThenMarlene (one of the ladies) gave out "It seems that when men get their hands on a pair of breasts, they regress to childhood and think they're dealing with toys and not with human body parts."
Don't treat breasts like they're made of play-dough, because they're not. Suppose we wrapped our hands around your testicles and kneaded them like we do dumpling? Would you be a happy camper? I think not! Breasts are beautiful works of art. Caress them and appreciate their form. Cup them in both hands and softly embrace them. Do not treat them like they're some science experiment and that if you squeeze hard enough, maybe you'll be the first guy to deflate a pair. There's nothing women like more than men who can appreciate, adore, and admire them as though Michelangelo himself sculpted their form.
TAKE TIME WITH THE NIPPLES
"I don't know why some men insist on biting down on nipples as though they're extra pieces of skin that shouldn't be there," said Cathy one of the ladies who was also engaged in the conversation.
Stop treating nipples like they're uncooperative snacks because no matter how badly you want to believe it, nipples are not gummy bears or radio dials. Thus, there is no need to behave as though you're looking to make contact with Zip 103 and we're your only hope. Caressing, licking, flicking, sucking and even nibbling are acceptable. Unless you interact with sado-masochistic women, nipples should be handled with care. Suck on them gently and softly using tongue and lips, not the teeth.
BODY EXPLORATION
There's more to women than just the hilly area on top and the tunnel down south. Don't just attack the sexual organs and treat women as though they are blown up dolls filled with air for one purpose. Perhaps men like it when women cut out the imaginative foreplay and go straight for the main course. Remember, women are individuals with unique aspects to them. Groping the breasts and the vagina like an adolescent is expected only when you're paying by the hour.
You'd be surprised to discover different women's erogenous zones. Some women love it when the backs of their knees are licked; others love it when their men gently bite down their backs or the inside of their thighs. The idea is to be creative and touch women all over because that is the only way to discover what makes them hot and bothered. Women are all unique and beautiful, and should be treated that way. There are many different body parts to explore besides the usual. So do like Christopher Columbus and explore!
Explore and discover what pleases women by being attentive to their reaction. Using mouth and fingers at the same time is a definite plus but practice makes perfect so take all the time you need. Ladies will never complain that you're spending too much time on them.
There still remains more annoying things that men do during sex, but hopefully, this will assist a lot of men on their next journey into sexual territory. There is a part two to this topic (like the annoying things that women do) so watch out!
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