Stephen-Claude Hyatt
Dear Rev:
I changed my job since May 2004 and I have been experiencing a tension headache that does not seem to be going away anytime soon. It has left me feeling depressed and also it seems to me that I have some chronic illness from which I cannot be cured. I have been to the doctor on several occasions and he has told me to identify the source of my headaches. Could the new job be affecting me?
Dear Friend:
It sounds to me that you may be having adjustment challenges at it relates to your new job. Most people do not realise that when you change jobs, even if you were the one to initiate the change, you may still experience some amount of mourning associated with the change.
If this is the case, then your doctor is on to something, as your headache would not be physiological; rather, psychological. I would suggest that you meet with a counsellor, so that you can both explore the possible genesis of these headaches and depressed
feelings.
Get on it right away, as the sooner you do, the quicker intervention can begin and relief experienced.
I am confused
Dear Rev:
I met a 21-year-old female, she had her boyfriend; but anyway she let me in and we went for four months. We broke up because she thought that I had companionship from another female, but we got over that and we broke up three more times because shewas saying that she was falling too much for me and she loves him more than me. Now that I finally let her go, she is now coming back asking for another chance. What should I do?
Dear Friend:
You need to ask yourself what is it you want for yourself and of this woman. Do you believe there is a possible future for both of you? If you do then you should ask yourself if you wish to pursue same.
It sounds as if she is afraid of committing to you and being hurt, and this speaks to issues of insecurity. Have you given her any reason to feel insecure, or is it coming out of her past experiences?
If you want to pursue this another time, I would suggest that you both need to sit with a counsellor and work through the possible barriers to the relationship.
Rev. Stephen-Claude Hyatt is a clinical psychologist. Email him at: tellmeaboutit2005@hotmail.com
