Wendel Abel

" We have a great life together but our sex life could be more fulfilling. We could be more affectionate and demonstrative. I wish we could talk more about sex, our desires, our fantasies, our likes and dislikes."

Let's talk

"I know you often say that I do not like to discuss things. It is not quite so. Sometimes when we start discussing, I think we tend to attack each other too much. Let us start talking to each other in a more supportive and less combative manner."

Forgiveness is important

"I have made some serious mistakes and I know I must take responsibility for them. I know the pain, hurt, sense of betrayal and certainly the anger you feel as a result of my mistakes. I don't expect you to forget them but what I want is your forgiveness."

Change is slow

"Please accept that not all things will change overnight. We come to this relationship with our personal demons - these are our weaknesses, shortcomings and failures. Everything will not change all at once but together we can make our life better."