Make-up sex shakesup relationships - Spousal rows lay surprising foundation for romance
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Saturday | September 6, 2008
Petrina Francis, Staff Reporter
Piercing scowls. Boiling anger. Swearing and shouting. Sounds like the perfect script for a football feud between bitter rivals? Nah, just another boxing bout or war of words involving acid-spitting spouses determined not to cede ground.
But quarrels can serendipitously transform a caustic cuss-off into a sultry love feast. There's one element that unifies war and peace, disputes and sex - passion.
"It's the best thing in the world! Shanice Gordon says of make-up sex, beaming with glee.
"That pent-up anger is realised and it breaks down the barrier and that just makes it great," Gordon tells Saturday Life.
Cheryl Brown says lovemaking after a heated argument is usually extra special because the adrenaline rush drives both partners to exert a lot of effort, pulling out all the stops to achieve mutual satisfaction.
passion filled
"Make-up sex is passion filled because you have the rush of emotions, from anger to joy, and those are very intense emotions," Brown explains.
She adds that it's more pleasant because the stress that was keeping them apart disappears when they start making out.
Nardia Rowe says she particularly enjoys sex after a dispute because it is more passionate than regular sex.
"All of that anger is released into passion and it's like we just want to tear down the place," she relates.
Rayon Barnes tells Saturday Life that 'post-World War' sex can rejuvenate a relationship, saying it is equivalent to 'gettin' some' for the first time.
"It is even nicer when you were the one who caused the argument. So, when she decides to give in ... it seems like you are on top of the world because it means that you have been forgiven for your actions," Barnes says.
'Make-up sex is passion filled because you have the rush of emotions, from anger to joy, and those are very intense emotions.'
Initiating Make-Up Sex
Start with a hug. Tell your mate how sorry you are for your part of the argument and ask if you can please give him a hug.
Kiss the neck. Ask your partner if you can put the argument behind you.
Press your body firmly against your lover. Whisper that it's much more fun when you two are agreeing on things.
Trickle your fingertips up and down your spouse's back, shoulders, the nape of the neck and hips.
Lead your lover to the bedroom.
Tips and Warnings
Relax. Make-up sex is designed to unleash the stress built up by the argument.
If neither side will budge, it's often best to wait a day or two until you are both sex-starved and sorry.
Don't initiate make-up sex unless you are really ready to forgive, forget and move on. Otherwise, you're liable to get mad in the middle of it.
