The Soloist, Contributor

The other day, a single friend of mine reluctantly gave up the two-timing man who was giving her great sex for a long time. She had lost the battle with his other woman. He confessed that he just had to have the two of them and, if anything, he would take on a third rather than leave what's at home and stick with her.

I thought, 'I told you so', but kept my mouth shut. She had settled into the throes of passionate sex, but as the ardour cooled and reality set in, she found herself going through too much trouble to keep track of him when he was not around, and was not even getting a good three nights a week.

Every day we hear women moaning and groaning about how 'their' men are cheating on them. The little detail they conveniently omit is that 90 per cent of the time, their men are someone else's husbands or live-in lovers. So, they are only left with crumbs from another woman's table.

Live dangerously

We are wondering if there is a real man shortage or if some women just love to live dangerously. Think about it: It is rather dangerous to sleep with a man who has a wife with whom he does not use a condom and is so used to the 'bare-back' ride, he insists on the same with you. You, wanting to please and maintain your two or three visits weekly, will do anything, including risk sexually transmitted infections, pregnancy and even death.

But take sex out of the picture. Don't tell me that every woman who chooses to be with another woman's man has no idea of his status before 'falling in love'. Surely you must do some amount of research and investigation as you get to know each other? Don't tell me you skipped the appetiser and jumped right into the main course? Or, perhaps you just ignored the reliable feminine intuition.

You begin to see his true colours when things settle down and he meets your girlfriends and decides to check one of them out too. Why didn't it occur to you that if he two-timed his wife with you, he would not be averse to two-timing you with someone else?

Finally, let's say you knew all the facts at the start, and chose to look the other way, why cry over spilt sperm now? Why not just settle for your shopping trips to Miami, the new car, the constant flow of cash, the fancy jewellery and, best of all, the top quality sex you have taken away from wifey? You took comfort in the poor, supposedly ignorant woman's lack of knowledge, so why not accept that someone else is now taking comfort in yours!

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