Sacha Walters, Staff Reporter
With the holidays come a flurry of activities and the joy of having loved ones around. For many it is the time of year their romantic partner visits from abroad. But with that visit comes a departure, and the sadness is sure to creep in.
For Nadia Davis, 26, when her boyfriend migrated to take up a job offer in Canada, she cried a lot.
"I'm a very emotional person," Davis said, and the tears flowed, especially when he just left.
"At first it was very hard, the transition period from having him here every day to not having him at all," she said, explaining that they were accustomed to doing a lot of activities together.
"I couldn't stay at home," she said. So to distract herself she would relax with friends. They would plan more organised events like going to dinner or attending parties. Otherwise, they would engage informal lymes like games events or just relaxing.
This is a good approach to take, according to lifestyle coach Dr Heather Little-White. She said individuals should find other productive activities to occupy their time; it will allow him or her to achieve goals while providing a distraction from the sadness.
She recommends pursuing an academic course, joining a club or getting involved with a charity.
"It is the lag that gets people into trouble. They have nothing to occupy their minds. So they overeat or get distracted," Dr Little-White notes.
The period of sadness where individuals feel melancholic and need to cry is not only natural but a necessary part of readjusting to a normal life, said Dr Little-White.
She also recommends not forgetting the little things. She said writing an old-fashioned love letter reminiscing about the times both of you spend together.
"The memories are what you have to help bolster you for the period you are away," she said. This also helps to build the anticipation until you two meet again.
For Davis, she said she is adjusting as they have been lucky enough to visit each other on holidays and they speak daily on the telephone or on BlackBerry Messenger.
Davis, who is studying law, said they will attempt to make their relationship work as it is until she finishes school and can possibly migrate to be with him.
Other ways to cope
1. make use of all the modern methods of communication: telephone calls, emails and texts can keep you connected.
2. Staying close to each other's families (especially parents), is a big help too because you can pick up information from them about each other that you may have missed or you can share new information that they may not have heard.
3. Send lots of pictures of yourself at work or play; that way the one abroad is kept abreast of what's happening with you.