Q. I AM planning to retire soon. I had my twin boys at 40, put together a nest egg for them and now, at 65, they are in professional school and I am tired. My friends say I should keep working to make sure that I have more money to help them. My friends are making me feel guilty. What do I do?
A. If you have done the best you can and know how your body feels, you need to take a break. It does not make any sense that you get so ill that you are not able to enjoy your retirement. Sit with your financial adviser and make sure that you plans are good ones. Remember there is no good health without good mental health.
Is it a good idea to let my child sit CSEC exams now?
Q. My daughter is being encouraged to take three Caribbean Secondary Education Certificate (CSEC) subjects this year. She is in fourth form. The school is willing to pay half the fee. Should I let her go ahead?
A. First, ask your daughter if she wishes to sit the examinations. If she says yes, then sit with the teachers and your daughter and review her grades and make a decision. It would be good for her to use these exams as practice exams. Let your daughter know that you are not pressuring her to get straight As. Let her know that you just want her to do her best.
Must I take my young son to Europe when I go to work?
Q. I got an offer with an international agency to work in Europe next year. This is a one-year contract. Is it okay for me to take my 10-year-old son with me? The organisation is encouraging me to do so, but I have concerns for language issues.
A. I agree with your organisation that you should take your son with you. In many cities in Europe there are schools that teach in English. You can pursue that option. It would be a great experience for him. Depending on your job you may even be able to homeschool him. Explore all options before you decide.
Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to firstname.lastname@example.org or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!