I have a problem with anger. I get irritable easily and tend to find myself in disputes all the time. I need help!
Anger management is key to relationships. You will need therapy to help you to cope. Anger is a normal emotion, but aggression is provoked because of perception. Sometimes we are sensitive to certain issues and have wrong perceptions. Our hot spots are trigger points, and we get angry when these points are touched.
You need to do an analysis of the issues that cause you to get irritated. Do you have a chip on your shoulder? Sometimes we have pet peeves and so get annoyed easily. Are you overcompensating for some deficits that you have? As humans, we are not perfect and when we compare ourselves to others, we will either feel inferior or superior, depending on the circumstances.
Your irritability may be early signs of a mental illness. Are there other members of your family who have anger problems? In normal situations, we do get annoyed, resentful, and irritated by other people. You need to practise deep breathing to release tension and irritability. Deep breathing will help you to relax and maintain self-control.
Self-control is very important as it helps us to contain ourselves and not commit illegal acts. Learning to blow off steam is important, and we should practise it every day. Some people are so sensitive that they tip over into the realm of paranoia. Are you suspicious and see threats to your safety in all your interactions?
Do you believe in obeah, or are you superstitious? Do you feel the need to be in control of others at all times?
Your level of aggression is rather high and needs to be evaluated.
My wife suffers from bipolar disorder and it is rather stressful for me. I would like to be able to manage the situation better.
About one to two per cent of the population suffers from bipolar disorder and it affects both males and females. The key to the successful management of any illness is to follow instructions and guidelines and be compliant with medication and office visits.
Bipolar disorder is treated like any other condition. It can reoccur and the patient can deteriorate over time. When things are going well, your wife must continue the medication, but maybe at a lower dose. The greatest pitfall in managing this condition is stopping medication when all is well.
The other problem is watching the person develop a full-blown relapse. Sickness has to be nipped in the bud. Early detection and early intervention are the key to keeping your wife well. Both you and your wife must see the necessity for medication and office visits. Smoking ganja can be a sign of a relapse or a sign of disordered thinking. We don't encourage patients with mental illness to smoke ganja. Sometimes, she might become very religious, and you will need to determine if this is normal behaviour, or a relapse.
Bipolar disorder is manageable, and you need to be educated about this condition.
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