Q. How do I build a good relationship with my child's day care providers? One told me last week in front of a parent that I was too overprotective. I did not get angry as I have no other choice for child care right now.
A. You can ask to speak privately with the child care provider who shared her concern with you. When you are alone with her, ask her politely what she meant by the comment she made. If you can see where you can learn from her observation do so. However, continue to be protective of your child. Remember it is important to develop a good relationship with persons who care for your child during your absence.
Car seat shopping
Q. What must I look for when buying a car seat? I saw some cheap ones in a popular store, but my friends tell me not to buy cheap, but buy safe.
A. Your friends are correct. When shopping for a baby's car seat look for these critical things: The seat must meet safety guidelines for the age of the child; read the instructions and ensure that the seat can be installed properly in your car; if your child has special health concerns ask your paediatrician for guidance in choosing a car seat and remember car seats are to be installed in the back seats of cars. Do some research on the brand you choose to see if it is highly rated.
Fathers and childbirth
Q. Are fathers just as emotional about the birth of a child as mothers?
A. Fathers can be just as emotional about the birth of a child as a mother. However, we have encouraged men not to show their feelings too much, and so you will not hear a father sounding emotional. Fathers are more likely to ensure that they provide the material things needed as they are expected to. Many fathers today are very active in helping to bathe and comfort their babies. Encourage men you know to be helpful when a new baby arrives in the home. Everyone being caring will help the family to bond.
Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behaviour problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to firstname.lastname@example.org or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!