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If I were a boy ...

Published:Tuesday | November 20, 2012 | 12:00 AM

Q. My 10-year-old daughter keeps on saying that she wishes she was a boy. When I ask her why, she says that this will make her stronger to face the bullies at school. Is this just a phase or should I be worried?

A. Your daughter simply thinks that physical strength will stop those who are bullying others. Get some more information from your daughter about the bullies at the school, and then you need to speak with the classroom teacher and the principal about the bullies and insist that something be done to protect your child and other children.

Q. I am very interested in working with parents of children with disabilities. I think that they need a lot of help and support. How can I get training to do this?

A. If you are trained as a school or counselling psychologist, you will be able to get the skills to work with parents of children with disabilities. Call your local universities that offer graduate counselling programmes for more information.

Q. Already at 14, my daughter insists that she wants to be a minister of religion. She is very good at the sciences, and I am trying to steer her in that direction. How can I help her to see which is better for her?

A. It is great that your daughter desires to serve the Lord at this young age. Encourage her to have a strong relationship with the Lord while she goes through her high-school years. She is still young and may change her mind many times in the future. What will be important is that she practises good moral values whatever profession she chooses.

Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behaviour problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to helpline@gleanerjm.com or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!