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Hate ... many sides

Published:Monday | November 26, 2012 | 12:00 AM
Daviot Kelly

Hate is a strong word, and I think, like many people, I throw it around a little too loosely.

Hate kind of ranks right up there with icon, amazing and philanthropist. If you do something well for a few years in the international sphere you are an icon. If a player kicks the ball over a defender's head and then scores, it's an amazing goal. Even though 13-year-olds in Brazil and Argentina do it for fun. And if you dip a few dollars in the Salvation Army tin every Christmas, you're a philanthropist.

But like I said, we throw around hate (the word AND the emotion) too much. In your journey to work, two taximen 'bad drive' you, you hate them. But we all have to make a living and at least they're not criminals. Or your team loses a big game due to a questionable call from the referee, and you hate di ref! No, you really dislike the referee, but if you saw him drowning you would pull him to safety. For me, real hate means under no circumstances would you assist the offending individual.

There's a song by a band Plain White Ts that says "Hate is a strong word, but I really, really, really don't like you." So here are a few things that upon revision, I just really, really, really don't like.

1 Drivers who travel in the 'wrong' lane all the way to the traffic light or intersection because it's quicker; and then basically shove you and the other motorists who used the lane you were in from the beginning out the way. Don't even have the courtesy to 'beg a bly'.

2 Speakers who say they don't have much to say and 45 minutes later, with half the room asleep, they're still going. At least, sometimes, they give good jokes.

3 When you're doing a vox pop and people literally fan you off like you're a bothersome fly before they even hear what it is you're asking.

4 People who feel they have to touch you every 10 seconds while you and they are having a conversation. (My biggest problem with that is, it's never a woman, it's always a guy).

5 People who never buy things for anyone, but expect (note the verb) to have gifts bestowed upon them.

6 People who are the last to arrive, but the first to be hurrying everybody else who was there long before them that it's time to leave.

So the next time you're about to say "I hate", think about it very quickly, weigh the evidence carefully and, where necessary, make the necessary adjustments. Hoping for a more loving society. Cheers!

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