Latoya Grindley, Staff Reporter
It may not be so uncommon for a woman to be dating a man, and months into the relationship, the 'unfortunate' disclosure comes that another woman he was involved with in a previous relationship is carrying his child. Left to digest the information, the woman is left to make a decision - either she leaves or stays. First instinct would be to run for the hills, but if truth be told, many women do stay and grow to accept the situation.
What if the script is flipped though, would the men be so understanding of the situation and swallow their pride and move forward? Flair recently posed the question, "What would you do if a woman you have just started dating tells you she recently found out that she is pregnant, which could only be for someone she was with prior to you, but is clearly no longer with?"
Well for me, it wouldn't make sense, especially if I wanted to build a life with her, but evidently someone else got a headstart on me. And this man has to now be a part of her life. I am not sure how secure I would feel in that relationship.
It depends on a lot of things. Like if I can't get a baby myself and so on. If I really like her, though, I am not so sure I could just leave.
- Y. A.
It's going to take a much longer time for me to fall for her than it would be for her to find out that she is pregnant. So it is highly likely that I would leave. Men want to father their own seed and are against raising another man's.
That would mess me up. I would have to leave, I would be too cut up inside. I'm such a jealous person, it wouldn't matter if it happened before me.
Boy that rough! Relationship done, but we can be friends.
I would perhaps stay. I prefer the honesty and, I mean, people raise children that are not biologically theirs. I will perhaps feel a way about it at first, but it happened before me and she was honest about it.
If it is a case where she wasn't dating both of us at the same time and she dated him before me, and I am convinced and satisfied that she is still not attached to the other guy, then I may consider continuing to date her.
It would turn me off. She is carrying another man's child. What happens after the baby is born? It may very well bring both parents back together and I don't want to deal with that if it happens. So I would rather leave.
I can't really vex with her, but she would have to terminate it or we go our separate ways.
A very tough situation but she has unfinished business to take care of, so I would leave her to deal with the situation. But we could be friends.
Everybody has a past and comes with a bit of baggage, so maybe that would be hers coming into the relationship. Understanding that that other relationship is fully over and that she genuinely didn't know she was pregnant, that is something I would have to man up and deal with and be supportive, only if I truly check for her.
What?! No sah, I gone! We just start date and then baby come into the picture and is not mine. That would be enough reason to say bye, and she must can understand.