Q My husband and I have been having serious financial difficulties so much so that electricity has been cut off twice and family helps us out with groceries sometimes.
We, however, ensure that our two sons get to school and get a good education. My husband earns the bulk of the money as I am in a clerical job. Now he claims that a great opportunity has arisen wherein he has been offered an overseas sales job for six months with the potential to earn big bucks. He asked for time off from his job for the six months without pay, but the boss said no. He intends to resign the job and will be leaving late next month. He promises that he will be able to send money weekly from the commission he gets and this will be adequate to operate the house.
This seems like a pipe dream, but he feels he is going to greener pastures and it can work. He has not had a discussion with the family. He has taken the decision. I know that the financial situation has affected him emotionally and even his health. However, this overseas job seems impractical, but I do not know what to do and how to change his mind. Please help!
A. The difficulty in making two ends meet could be driving your husband to taking more risks than normal. However, you both need to assess this overseas job offer and ensure that he has a work permit. Otherwise, he could be deported for working without permission.
Additionally, working on commission can be difficult in the beginning. It takes time to build up a client base. It also takes time to understand a new environment and its ethos. Money might not flow in the beginning so he needs to negotiate other financial benefits apart from commission. He needs to get health benefits, especially since he has health challenges. Health costs in most countries are very expensive. He could also ask for a retainer.
Why is this contract just for six months? Is it a part-time job? Is he filling in for someone? Or is he going on a visitor's visa with the idea to work? What will be his housing costs, etc. He also needs to do a due diligence on the company. You need to see the job letter offer and read the fine prints. You need answers to such questions to determine whether this is a pipe dream.
Hopefully, if it does not work then he can reapply for his old job. He needs to ensure that he leaves his former job in good grace. Furthermore, he needs to start exploring other job prospects from now because six months is a short time.
I do not want to put any ideas in your head or to be cynical, but let us hope he is not planning to run off or worse to start a new family to get a permanent stay and a better job.
He needs to sit down with you and his sons and explain what he is doing and why he is doing it. He needs to get the blessing of the family before he leaves.
If he goes, then you need to keep in touch regularly in order to keep the romance going, and pledge to be faithful to each other during this long absence.
This is a risky proposal and you need to weigh the pros and cons to determine the likelihood of success. You need also to improve your skills and education in order to get a better job or promotion at the workplace.
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