Jody-Anne V. Lawrence, Freelance Reporter
'Let's still be friends' - things that are never true in a break-up but uncontrollably always come out.
Though you might have broken up, at one point you loved this person. But if you are intent on being friends, you might be toeing the line. As the saying goes, 'Ol' fire stick easy fi ketch'. So can you and your ex ever truly be just friends?
Sharmaine Ricketts got burnt when her boyfriend maintained a friendship with his ex-girlfriend. A friendship she thought was ok.
She had the impression that their interaction was at a minimum. When she asked why they broke up, he cited what she considered to be major flaws, and reassured her that there was no possibility of them getting back together.
"I did not see them together at all," she told Flair. This was until she ran into them at a party dancing suggestively - they were back together. He apologised saying he loved both women, but the ex was his first. And his last. He later married her.
But despite her experience, Ricketts does not believe it's a bad thing to remain friends with your ex, once the boundaries are set. However, relationship expert and clinical sexologist Dr Sidney McGill thinks that this could be dangerous territory.
"Set emotional boundaries - your conversation with your ex should be factual such as 'How is the weather?' 'Suzie needs a new pair of shoes'," advises McGill.
Some men believe that it is fine. Yuri Stewart believes that once you trust the person, you should give them the benefit of the doubt.
So should you eliminate them completely from your life getting rid of gifts and pictures of happier times. According to McGill, "Keeping photos in a photo album of previous relationships and events is a compendium of one's life. But hanging them up in the bedroom is disrespectful to your partner."
Most females believe having these photos is a sign they have not let go, while the men Flair spoke to shared McGill's professional opinion.
Carey Patterson told us, "Its all depends on how she goes about it. Is she hiding it? Is it on her fridge? If it's not a secret but not in my face, there is no problem."
When it comes down to it, respecting your spouse is what matters. Why make the past ruin the present and possible future?
As McGill puts it, "Keep your current relationship fresh. Let the past stay in the past."