My mother and I live together, and I assist her with the operations of the family shop in the evenings and on the weekends. I have been offered a scholarship to pursue a degree in my desired field, but I'm afraid that my mother and her employees are not capable of operating the business without me. Ever since my father passed, I have been fulfilling his responsibilities as much as I can and motivating our small staff to do the same. She knows how to manage the shop for the most part, but through her kind-heartedness, she will let the staff get away with anything and 'credit' too many goods. I have also been making the shop's operations more technological, so it can be easier for her and less stressful, but she has not grasped the concepts yet and without me, the operations can be very difficult. The community and our church are encouraging me to go to school and be successful and take care of my mom when I come back, but they don't know what we've been through and what we are going through without my father. I am her only child, and we are our own best friends. I do not want my mother to go through her struggles alone, but I want to do better things for her and myself and take care of her like she did for me. What should I do?
It is good that you are kind-hearted and loving towards your mother. Keep on honouring your mother, and let nothing and no one prevent you from a close bond with your mother. Furthermore, you are very responsible at your young age to be taking on the role of father, and managing the rigours of a business, and making it more technologically ready. You have a bright future in management and your chosen field.
Getting a scholarship is a once-in-a-lifetime experience. Chances are you cannot defer a scholarship. Most times you cannot even defer a place in the university. There are many other students who are waiting to grab such an opportunity. Therefore, you should grasp this opportunity to advance your career goals which should put you in a better position to help your mother. Additionally, because of the advances in technology, you can still help your mother and the business. While you are away from your mother, you can keep in touch and even see her face. You can also install remote cameras and monitor employees from overseas, and this is inexpensive. You can write letters off site and do accounting off site. It is possible to have your cake and eat it by taking up the chance for educational advancement while still managing the family business. However, do not let the family business affect your studies and socialising while at university. Your priority now is getting your degree.
You need to explain to your mother what you will be doing and that your absence does not mean you love her less or care less for the business. You need to talk to the employees and outline your expectations of them and what you will do for them. In addition, tell them how you will be managing the affairs of the business remotely.