Q. I am interested in going on vacation in Europe. My husband is vehemently opposed to my taking my high-school children with me. We would take the trains and buses across four countries. How do I convince him that we would be okay?
A. With technology today, your husband could keep track of you by audio and video moment by moment at a very cheap cost. Assure him of the security arrangements that you would make and encourage him to go with the family for all or some of the trip.
Q. Do psychologists see clients without a referral?
A. Yes, psychologists usually see clients without a referral; however, if a session includes an assessment of a child with a learning disability, for example, the psychologist may ask for referring information from the class teacher, guidance counsellor, or school principal.
Q. My daughter just started college at 17 and is intrigued by a male lecturer. I am concerned that she may have romantic feelings for him. How do I stop these feelings?
A. At 17, young women are often fascinated by positive male role models. Speak with your daughter and remind her gently of the main reason why she is at college. If she does share romantic ideas about the lecturer with you, do not get angry. Guide her by sharing sensible and practical reasons why acting on her feelings now may not be in her best interest. Also share with her how this could affect the lecturer's job and her status at the college.
Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to firstname.lastname@example.org or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!