Jody-Anne Lawrence, Gleaner Writer
Relationships can be like a landmine - you don't know what wrong step you will take for it to blow up in your face. Our aim is to manoeuvre it successfully. Tiptoeing around the line of privacy and trust in a relationship can be tricky. While honesty and disclosure is expected, how much are couples required to share - passwords to emails, social sites and financial information?
Relationship expert and clinical sexologist Dr Sidney McGill, believes that full disclosure of passwords to social networking sites, email and cellular phones, is a gesture of trust. However, it is within a spouse's right to refuse to disclose such information.
"I don't think not sharing such private-information will cause a break-up if there are no trust issues in the relationship. Couples have different comfort levels with intimacy and hence with how much they are willing to disclose."
Nordia Strachan has been married for two years, and tells Flair that she and her husband started out as friends before slowly making the transition to marriage. Now it's second nature to share everything with her husband.
matter of convenience
She discloses that it's a matter of convenience for her to make him check her email for important information if she cannot get to a computer.
Thascheca Thompson does not believe that the exchange of passwords, etc., is necessary. She believes that she should be entitled to that level of privacy and if her partner truly trusts her, "he wouldn't need it."
Social networking information is not the only privacy barrier in relationships. Should we also share bank accounts?
"They must both agree with the accounting arrangement whether to have separate or combined accounts. It's all a matter of preference," states Dr McGill.
While it's not a requirement, Deleon Wright and his wife have joint and personal accounts.
Even so, he explains, "We remain transparent with our finances." This is not synonymous with only married couples. Twenty-three-year-old Rochelle has a joint account with her fiancÚ, as it was more convenient to deal with their joint expenses.
So, at the end of the day sharing personal information with your spouse is very subjective. Essentially it does not determine the strength of your relationship, just your comfort level and how much privacy you need.
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