Q: My child was placed in a sports group, also referred to as a house, at her school. The houses are named after national heroes. My significant other is very political and insists that our children not be placed in any house named after persons other...
A: It seems that your friend has a lot of maturing to do. You need to be frank with her and share that such behaviour is not becoming of an adult. Tell your children the truth if they ask.
Q: My 16-year-old daughter is bent on becoming the advocate of the century. She wants to take home every child she sees who is needy. At first I allowed day visits from kids from church over the summer, but now she is planning sleepovers. I am afraid of what will come next.
A: Share with your daughter the financial and social responsibilities that are involved in raising a child. Simply get a sheet of paper and list all the responsibilities that are involved. Encourage her to participate in her church or school welfare programmes by providing lunch packages or other types of activities. She is to be admired for her thoughtfulness.
Q: My 10-year-old daughter is enamoured with the guys who sing at a local hotel. We went there for a weekend last summer and shockingly, she is in touch with one of them through Facebook. Can I call the police and report him?
A: I think that the young man can only be prosecuted if he says or does something against the law regarding his contact with your daughter. You may need to control or monitor your daughter's computer usage. Share with your daughter the dangers involved with such types of association.
Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to firstname.lastname@example.org or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!