Jody-Anne Lawrence, Gleaner Writer
Women will readily tell you about their fears - of lizards, snakes, cockroaches. But men are more mum on the subject. Why? Many would say strength and confidence. So is this why men don't share their fears no matter how small?
When confronted about their fears, instead of admitting it, most men will say they hate something but it's not a fear.
According to clinical psychologist Dr Michele Lewin, socialisation plays a great role in why men are so secretive about their fears.
"Men tend to and want to be the protector. Their role has been predetermined by society. So to admit their fears will make them feel less than they are. They don't want to be vulnerable," she told Flair.
As Flair asked around, most men were reluctant to admit that they had any fears. And those who did, requested anonymity.
Timothy Clarkerevealed that he has a fear of frogs and snakes.
"I watched too many snake documentaries when I was younger," Clarke told Flair. He explained that he was told horrible stories about them, which is why he developed the fear. "I was told the story of the frog spitting cocobeh (an old wives' tale) which makes your skin look as rough as its back."
Lewin points out though some men know from an intellectual perspective that they should not feel emasculated because of socialisation and what they believe their role should be, it is like second nature for them to cover any fear that will make them seem vulnerable.
Joshua Morrisdeveloped a fear of clowns after watching Poltergeist when he was younger. He has never told anyone about this fear. "I'm a grown man with an image to uphold which cannot be tarnished simply because I cannot have any undermining of my authority," said Morris about denying his fears in public.
But according to Lewin, having a fear is not a sign of weakness, "We are all human beings. It (fear) doesn't emasculate you, it makes your relationship grow - not speaking about intimate relationships, but relationships in general. You are received better. It is ok for them to be vulnerable."
Names changed upon request