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Doctor's Advice:It just NEVER happens...

Published:Saturday | December 28, 2013 | 12:00 AM

I am now married, but my husband has NEVER ejaculated inside me. It just never happens, no matter how long we go on having intercourse. The strange thing is that he can reach a climax when he masturbates. Do you suspect something is wrong, Doc? Please help us as we are concerned.

A. Sorry to hear about this. Your husband clearly has a condition, which is fairly common in young men. It is called 'delayed ejaculation' or 'retarded ejaculation'.

It is a psychological problem caused by the fact that the poor guy finds it really difficult to let himself go. Typically, he can reach orgasm through masturbation or perhaps through being given a hand job by a woman, but he just can't do it inside the vagina.

You can find out a lot more about this condition on the Internet by googling the words 'retarded' and 'ejaculation'. You will see that the best chance of a cure involves taking a course of a treatment from a therapist. Usually, the therapist will encourage the guy to try to improve matters over a period of some months by gradually accustoming himself to having a climax nearer and nearer to his partner until eventually, he is able to orgasm inside her.

I really do think that you and your husband should seek that kind of professional help soon. Otherwise, it would be very difficult for the two of you to have children.

Good luck!

How can I tell if she's a virgin?

Doctor, how can I tell if my bride-to-be is a virgin before we get married?

A. You can't. You could if you were a gynaecologist, but I don't get the impression that you are one.

My advice: Accept your fiancée's word on this matter.

How fast does the Pill work?

If I start the Pill today, how soon will I be protected? I have never taken it before.

A. The Pill should be started on the first day of your menses. If you do that, you will be protected immediately.

There is an older way of starting the Pill, which is to begin on the fifth day of your period. If you do that, you will be protected in two weeks' time.

If you are in any doubt whatsoever, please talk to a doctor or nurse who is experienced in family planning. Above all, ensure that you are not pregnant before you start the Pill.

When will I give birth?

If a baby was conceived on Christmas Day, how soon would it be born, please?

A. Calculations are generally made from the first day of the last menstrual period (LMP). If a pickney were conceived on Christmas Day, then the first day of the LMP would probably have been around December 11.

To determine the estimated date of delivery (EDD), a midwife or doctor would add nine months and one week to that LMP day.

So that would give an EDD of around September 18, 2014.

Am I too big?

I am a guy of 18 and a virgin. This week, I finally got around to digging out a tape measure and checking out what my erect length is. It turned out to be seven inches exactly. Doc, does this mean that I am too big to ever have intercourse?

A. Not at all. You are certainly a little on the large side at seven inches, which is 17.78 centimetres.

But many years ago, the work of Masters and Johnson in America revealed that the vagina has a remarkable capacity for expansion and has no difficulty in accommodating an organ of that size.

So you will be able to have sex and to be a babyfather if you want to.

Did mom make me a browning?

Good day. I was born with a very light brown skin colour. My mother told me that this was because she intentionally drank magnesia during the pregnancy in order to keep my skin fair. Was her plan scientifically based?

A. I am afraid that your mother was mistaken. Drinking magnesia would not have any effect on a baby's skin.

In the rest of your email, you mention that your mother drank 'black castor oil' during her other pregnancies, but that would not have had any effect on the skin of your siblings.

You also asked if I know of any medicine that would make your own skin darker. I am sorry, but I do not.

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