As the new year approaches, we start to make self-evaluations about all the things we have done right and wrong in 2013 and then look on how we can improve them for 2014. Some people make resolutions, but according to life coach Dushyant Savadia, to have a successful year is sometimes based on the improvements we make with ourselves and how we react. Here are his tips to make a better you in 2014.
1. Make your smile cheaper
When you smile, all the muscles in your face are relaxed. The nerves in your brain gets relaxed, and you get the confidence, courage and energy to move on in life.
Don't let anyone snatch away your smile.
2. Be enthusiastic, praise others
Enthusiasm is the nature of life. We often have a tendency to put cold water on other's enthusiasm. Reverse this tendency. Take every opportunity to praise others and support their enthusiasm. If you put down other's achievements, the same may happen to you. 'As you sow, so shall you reap.'
3. who has anger; needs no enemy
All types of things happen in this world, so you need patience.When someone does something wrong, shouting and cursing does not eliminate or correct the error. Instead you are joining in the inappropriate behaviour. Correct with patience, even if it happens multiple times.
4. Be committed
Life runs with commitment. If you observe every small thing or big thing in life, they go with certain commitment - a mother is committed to her child; child is committed to his/her parents, husband is committed to wife, and wife is committed to her husband. The greater the commitment you make, the greater the power you gain to fulfil that commitment.
Whatever you are committed to brings you strength. If you are committed to your family, then your family supports you, if you are committed to society, you enjoy the support of society.
5. Integrate service into your life
You need to make your life interesting to make people be with you. This will happen when you nurture yourself with music, prayer and service. The way to expand from individual to universal consciousness is to share others' sorrow and joy. As you grow, your consciousness should also grow. When you expand in knowledge with time, then depression is not possible. The way to expand personal joy is to share universal joy. Instead of thinking "what about me?" and "what can I gain from this world?" Think, 'what can I do for the world?'
Service creates a sense of belonging. If you are not sensitive to others' pain, then you are not a human being. That is why you need to serve.
6. Live in the Present
Often you will see that the tendency of our mind is to oscillate in the past and the future. When the mind is stuck in the past, it experiences all the negative emotions such as guilt, regret, anger, sadness and resentment. The same mind when it is stuck in the future creates worries, anxieties and fear. Living in the present is the Art of Living! The present is free from all the anger and regret of the past and worries and anxieties of the future. The more you live in the present, the more the mind becomes free.
7. Have a sense of humour
You are endowed with certain naughtiness as a child. Keep it alive. Humour will grease all tough situations. One who has humour can sail through any conflict. Humour is the buffer that saves you from humiliation. If you refuse to be humiliated, you become invincible. In a society torn with humiliation and insult, humour is like a breath of fresh air.
The wise use humour to bring wisdom and to lighten situations. The intelligent use humour as a shield against humiliation. The cruel use humour as a sword to insult others. The irresponsible use humour to escape from responsibility, while a fool takes humour too seriously.
8. Overcome your prejudices
Often, you don't sit with people who are not economically or socially at your level. You have to learn to break that barrier. There are good people and bad people in every community, religion and every section of society. Don't be prejudiced against them. At the same time, don't be shy about your identity. When you overcome prejudice, you will be very natural, and your quality of life will improve.
9. Deal with criticism
There are two reasons why people criticise - to assist or jealousy. You need to sit down and be honest with yourself and identify which it is. If it is really to help, then thank them. If it is out of jealousy do not get angry just brush it off and move on, Do not take it in.
10. Handle mistakes tactfully
Mistakes will happen all the time. It is impossible to correct them all.
To correct mistakes you need authority and love. Authority and love seem to be contradictory, but in reality they are not. Authority without love is stifling. Love without authority is shallow. When you allow room for mistakes, you can be both authoritative and sweet. A fair person will not pick on the mistakes of others and make them feel guilty; he will correct them with compassion and care.