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So it's the 'slut's' fault?

Published:Monday | August 11, 2014 | 12:00 AM


I must support Francine Derby's letter ('Women aren't asking for perverse groping') of August 9, 2014. When women speak out against sexual harassment, victim bashing and 'slut shaming' are often the result. 'Provocatively dressed' women are told that they have incited men into undesirable behaviour.

In more than 50 years, I have yet to find the apparel (jeans, baggy pants or a power suit) or context (out with my children, with my spouse or with my girlfriends) that absolutely deters harassment and abuse. There have been catcalls, comments, shadowing, attempts to touch, as well as actual touching. To top it off, when rejected, there is verbal abuse ('sodomite' is a popular one, because only a lesbian would not be interested in Mr Gropy).

It's about power, entitlement, intimidation; it's not about sex. Just stop it. Most men don't behave that way. Stop justifying and excusing the minority.


Kingston 19