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Is this fair?

Published:Tuesday | August 12, 2014 | 12:00 AM

Orlean Brown-Earle, ask the doc

Q: My daughter is 14 and she bakes and sells cookies to help with her education. She has done this at school. The new principal says this cannot continue. Is this fair?

A: The principal is correct that a child cannot sell products on the school's property without proper guidelines. You and your daughter need to meet with the principal and discuss how she may follow established procedures and policies and still earn.

Q: My son is six years old next week. He was born in Canada and has a physical and mental disability that needs specialised help. My wife says that we can get the special help here in Jamaica and does not want to leave because she has a good job. I am a tradesman and can get a job easily there. How can I convince my wife that it is best for our son that we leave?

A: Do the research on which agency best provides for your son. Speak with your wife about possible opportunities for your son here in Jamaica and overseas as he gets older. Pray together about the decision and, if needed, seek psychological help for the family.

Q: Do you think that a young couple should take a child to live with them as soon as they are married? My son is getting married next month and his fiancé's sister has asked them to care for their three-year-old until she organises herself in America. I disagree. Am I wrong?

A: I think that all couples should have time to get to know each other before a child is introduced into their relationship. A three-year-old will require a lot of care.

Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to editor@gleanerjm.com or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!