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Rules of relationship every woman should know

Published:Saturday | September 20, 2014 | 12:00 AM


This is an open letter to ladies entering intimate relationships.

When thinking of entering a relationship that you intend to be intimate, you can either go in as an investor, an employee, or a shareholder/partner.

If you are an investor and the only thing you invest is between your legs, you may or may not get a decent return on your investment. That's life! Some investments pan out and some don't.

If you are an employee, declare your hand. Decide if you are to be paid monthly, weekly, or by the job, then settle on a rate. Don't be huffing and puffing about how "the man nah let off" and have any doubts as to whether you will. If the man doesn't pay the agreed rate, no services are to be provided. DO NOT 'TRUSS'!

At the end of the day, it's business, and whether your compensation is the rent at your apartment, your car payment, or a KFC Meal Deal, it must be paid. Furthermore, whether you work in a bank, are an attorney, an exotic dancer or this is your only form of employment, it's the oldest profession in the world and it's your job.

If the plan is to be a partner with a desire to mutually contribute to a life together and carry yourself with respect, oftentimes one doesn't have to demand respect, as it is given in abundance. For these ladies, it's not all about the money, and they value their partner's time much more than his treasure.

She provides a listening ear when he is down, a back rub when it hurts, and a good meal when he is hungry (and in good partnerships, those courtesies are returned). They realise that cash comes from whichever of them have it at the time. As such, these ladies are ENTITLED to their share of whatever the union produces and should ACCEPT NOTHING LESS.

Too many women go into arrangements with the mindset of investors or employees and expect to be treated like partners. Decide whatever it is you are and stick to it. Don't move the goalposts.