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41-day love journey ends

Published:Monday | December 29, 2014 | 12:00 AM

Cathy Risden, Lifestyle Writer

Finally, your 41 days end on Saturday. Let me commend you for sticking it out to the end. Don't think for one second that your partner has not noticed one change about you, they are watching and waiting to see your consistency. So continue to apply these daily dares to your life and the result will be even greater.

Here is the final words from the ladies about their journey.

Sandra Brown

Whoever thought that this was going to be easy didn't go through it, but it was definitely worth it. I'm still a work in process when it comes to keeping my attitude in order, but I do approach situations in a more constructive light and positivity then follows suit. Not only are we stronger in the communication department, we are far more loving than we used to be, which I never thought could happen since in my head, we were pretty close. So all in all, 41-day love journey was a success.

Jade Small

Well, it has come to the end of the love journey and I think that I have started my relationship on the right foot. While I was not able to fully participate as some of the challenges applied to someone who is married or living together, I think it got me in the right frame of mind. I let my hair down and tried to not be a control freak that expected everything to go the way I want it, and instead of having the first few months of tension, I have had months of ease. I am happy with where I am. So while I do not think that you need to follow this like a rule book, you can use it to help you in areas you are lacking.

Vicky Choo

Despite not being consistent with the dares, I can honestly say I have reaped the fruits of my labour. I am not a patient person, and after making a special effort to follow the daily guides, I have found that it was certainly worth it. I am not at the level I want to be where my patience is concerned, but I am doing much better.

THIS WEEK'S DARE: December 29-January 4

Monday

Day 36: Love is accountable

Find a marriage mentor - someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you. If you feel that counselling is needed, then take the first step to set up an appointment. During this process, ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.

Tuesday

Day 37: Love is God's Word

Commit to reading the Bible everyday. Find a devotional book or other resource that will give you some guidance. If your spouse is open to it, see if they will commit to daily Bible reading with you. Begin submitting each area of your life to its guidance and start building on the rock.

Wednesday

Day 38: Love fulfills dreams

Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires to whatever level you possibly can.

Thursday

Day 39: Love and marriage

Is there a "leaving" issue you haven't been brave enough to conquer yet? Confess it to your spouse today, and resolve to make it right. The oneness of your marriage is dependent upon it. Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and to God to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.

Friday

Day 40: Love is a covenant

Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home. Perhaps, if appropriate, you could make arrangements to formally renew your wedding vows before a minister and with family present. Make it a living testament to the value of marriage in God's eyes and the high honour of being one with your mate.

Saturday

Day 41: The ultimate letters

Write a letter and address it to yourself. Commend yourself for accepting and completing the most challenging 41 days of your life. And even if your partner did not appreciate your effort, you were content that it came from the heart.

Write a handwritten letter to your partner and post it. Let them know that for the past month you have learn to love and appreciate them more. Let your partner know that although they have not responded positively for everything that you have done, you still love and appreciate them. Let them know you have forgiven them for all the wrong they have done to you and you are willing to start over.

cathy.risden@gleanerjm.com