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Reaching out despite personal pain

Published:Thursday | January 22, 2015 | 12:00 AM

HELLO MI Neighbour With Maas Gussie

HELLO MI neighbour!

Mellora is an amazing mother of two. Her third child was stillborn on December 14, 2014 due to pre-eclampsia (development of high blood pressure and protein in the urine after the 20th week of pregnancy). Wanting to cremate the body, there was no cash. For three weeks, she sought financial assistance but found none. When she called me for help, I asked her to text the information. She didn't.

A few days later, Mellora called with a change of mind regarding this assistance. What happened? While listening to my radio programme, 'Hello Neighbour' (aired on LOVE 101 FM), on January 14, she was inspired to help someone instead.

Though still grieving, she believes that the pain of others needed greater attention than hers. "Some persons are grieving for food, clothing and shelter, etc. My child is already dead and these people are trying to live." Wow!

Touched by the plight of another mother who has nowhere to live, she has decided to donate her little house, built on leased land, in St Mary to her. For real? Yes! The structure is fitted with bathroom, kitchen and running water, etc. And so, with all legal arrangements in place, in short order another shelterless neighbour will be sheltered. Can we join this mother in saying hallelujah?

"Whenever I give, it feels like virtue leaves my body and I feel complete," she said.

She is not the 'vanititious' type - not about vanity. The importance of giving was instilled in her from childhood. Her mother, as she recalls, once turned her birthday party into a treat at a children's home. That birthday was her happiest. Mothers, take a page.

Mellora believes that all of us should be the "avenues and streets" which lead others to a better life. In her opinion, if even the sick would focus less on themselves and pray for others, healing would come to all more quickly. The reward for giving always supersedes the outcome of begging.

With a broad smile, Mellora speaks of how "sweet it is to know that out of my pain, I can help someone else".

She advises that:

Those who ask for help should think about helping others also.

We should not be like creatures which live on others.

We must have a spirit to fight for the good of others.

The best time to give is when you are in need.

Her dream is to have a pre-eclampsia drive to help save mothers from the development and effects of this disease, which is rapidly dsseveloping in especially black pregnant mothers. Wow!

Do you have a dream that will help with the well-being of humanity?

Thanks for helping:

1. Sister Morgan, for offering a wheelchair to a needy neighbour.

2. Althea, St Catherine, for offering books for high and primary schools.

3. Dacia, for offering bed to needy neighbour.

4. Karen, for offering assistance to neighbour, St Mary, who needs linoleum.

5. Ena, St Ann, for offering a 4-burner stove to neighbour, St Mary.

Opportunities for helping:

Paulette, St Andrew, unemployed - asking for fabric to make uniforms and sheets for a living.

Mr Bryan, wife moved out leaving him on the floor - asking for household items.

Beverly, Clarendon, visually challenged. Seeking financial assistance to do MRI on January 22, 2015.

Ivoline, St Catherine, needs a mattress.

Patricia, St Mary, mother of young child. Unable to work. Asking neighbours for a few sheets of ply to replace rotted ones.

Trish, mother of three. Nowhere to live. Asking for a little piece of land.

Maxine, St Elizabeth, asking neighbours for a stove.

Diana, needs a dresser and a bed.

Charmaine, St Elizabeth, husband died leaving her with two-month-old child who has Down's syndrome. Child needs to do a heart test, but there's no money. Asking for neighbour's help.

Marlene, St Andrew, asking for a second-hand hospital bed for mother.

To help, please call 334-8165, 884-3866, 299-3412 or deposit to acct # 351 044 276 NCB. (Bank routing #: JNCBJMKX) or send donations to Hello Neighbour c/o 53 Half-Way Tree Road, Kingston 10; email