God hates divorce - Pt 2
As the saying goes, "marriage was made in heaven", but we have to live it on Earth. It is an investment that is more valuable than your physical assets.
A godly wife is favour from God. So every husband who has a godly wife must realise and appreciate that this is favour from God. It is imperative for husband and wife to speak to each other, while remembering that Proverbs 18:21 states, "Death and life are in the power of the tongue." It is easy to speak negatively in times of disagreement and conflict and more difficult to speak positively. Whatever you call the person negatively, that is what they will become to you. Thus, if the husband calls his wife a Jezebel, then she becomes that to him and he in turn becomes the Ahab.
Leaving and cleaving is always difficult within a marriage. Becoming one flesh is not easy. This brings about priority changes on the part of the husband/man. There are so many things that they both must leave in order to cleave to each other and become one; family, friends, exes, attitudes, activities, mindset. Although God spoke to the man, both man and wife must do this in order to become one in Him.
joined as one
Being joined as one has the idea of both passion and preeminence. The term 'one flesh' carries a number of implications - sexual union, child conception, spiritual and emotional intimacy and showing each other the same respect shown to other close kin. Some people show more respect to their friends and relatives than to their spouse.
The first thing a man must realise is that he must see himself in the person who is his wife, because she would complete him. So they will now have one goal, one vision one set of objectives, and both of them will go after the same thing. They will have the same heart. Their coming together should never be about money, assets, title, fame or any such thing. It should be about fulfilling purpose and conforming to God's image. (Deuteronomy 6: 4)
The wife must know that regardless of what is being taught about the role of women, they must know that women were made for men, not men for women. (I Corinthians 11: 9), submission is not an act of weakness, it is an act of purpose and protection. Man was first created - meaning that priority and responsibility were given to the man by God as head of the family. It means he is held accountable for his family. He must rule lovingly and gently. Creation's origin lets us know that man was created from the dust and woman from the rib of man. (I Corinthians 11: 8).
Next, it is man who named woman and all other living things. (Genesis 1: 28, Genesis 2: 19, Genesis 2: 23).
Delegation principle - God gave instructions to Adam on how to manage. (Genesis 2: 16-18) Woman sinned first. (I Timothy 2: 14; Genesis 3: 1) Although it was Eve who first sinned, it was Adam that God held accountable for her actions, for it was Adam that God gave the responsibility to nourish his wife with the instructions of God and relay to her all that God required of them as a union.
Man is the glory of God, Woman is the glory of a man. (I Corinthians 11: 7) A good woman and a godly one is not afraid to submit. (I Peter 3: 5-6)
The Danger of Divorce
Divorce is dangerous to society. When divorce starts increasing, everyone should be alarmed, including the lawmakers. There are two Scriptural grounds given for divorce - sexual immorality and desertion. (Matthew 5: 32; I Corinthians 7: 1-6).
Many divorces are taking place without Scriptural grounds; and while it may seem okay to some by way of the courts to grant a divorces/annulments of marriages, there are spiritual consequences that are taking place. There is a lot of spiritual polygamy taking place. Malachi 2: 15-16, speaks about the dangers of allowing one's spirit to be corrupted that one would deal treacherously with the wife of one's youth.
When two people marry, God stands as a witness to the marriage sealing it with the strongest possible word - covenant. Covenant is extremely important to God and speaks of faithfulness and enduring commitment.
Divorce is considered by God to be violence against God's intention for marriage. It is contrary to God's original institution, and in effect, it constitutes an attack on the sacredness of the home and the family unit, which was prescribed by God in the Garden of Eden. Furthermore, whoever divorces his wife for any reason than sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery.
Part 1 appeared in last Monday's Gleaner.
Steve Lyston is a biblical economics consultant and author of several books including 'End Time Finance' and 'The New Millionaire'.