Bisexuality as greed
Late last year, I watched on an Oprah show an Asian-American comedian saying bisexuality was greed. She was apparently not joking. She is bisexual. Her utterance is worthy of further exploration.
Bisexuality is one's sexual desire or behaviour towards both males and females. It does not necessarily equate to equal sexual desire for both sexes or having intimate relationships at the same time with males and females or to the same degree. The concern of this article is those persons who are having simultaneous intimate relationships with males and females.
Some scholars claim that bisexuality could be due to genetic, hormonal or environmental factors. However, there could be another reason - GREED. Greed is a selfish, excessive and obsessive desire for more than is necessary or deserved, in order to be satisfied. It is to please one's self while exploiting another person. It is a compulsive self-seeking of happiness, with no or little regard for God or human beings.
God intended sexual intercourse to facilitate childbearing. In addition, sexual activity was designed for the mutual satisfaction of the couple. Sexual coitus is devaluated when either party engages for self-gratification only; a sign of greed. Both persons should aim to satisfy the other in sexual intercourse.
Sex parties would be a symbol of greed. Former IMF head, Frenchman Dominique Strauss-Kahn, who is facing charges of "aggravated pimping" in France, testified that he attended only 12 orgies in three years. Orgies are designed to cater to the fancies of our sexual greed.
A person practising bisexuality could take the greed to another level and argue that he or she should be entitled to marry two persons. A heterosexual person who wants to marry two persons could be seen as greedy, hence most societies do not allow that. Similarly, a married person who commits adultery can be said to be greedy. There cannot be a free-for-all in sexual practices, otherwise it will lead to confusion and chaos.
In addition, persons who are practising bisexuals need to disclose it to their partners. There was a recent murder case in South Africa in which the millionaire husband was charged with the death of his wife, Anni Dewani. He was acquitted of the charge, but during the testimony, it came out that the husband was bisexual. The family of the deceased lady claimed that, if she had known that her husband was bisexual, she would not have married him.
A Criminal Offence
In the United States and Canada, persons with HIV/AIDS are required to tell their sexual partners about their status. It is a criminal offence wherein a person knows he or she has HIV and does not reveal it to his or her partner. In Jamaica, a person who knows that he or she has an illness that is transmitted sexually, commits an offence if he or she does not inform his or her partner(s). Such behaviour could be interpreted as an assault even if the partner has not been infected. The reasoning is that a partner would not have consented to sexual intercourse or sexual activity had he or she known the accused was infected. Similarly, a person who is bisexual should disclose his sexual practices to the persons with whom he or she is involved and intends to have sex, so that those persons can make the relevant informed decisions.
1 Timothy 3:2 states 'a bishop should be the husband of one wife.' This monogamous relationship still seems to be a great idea and best reflects God's will for humans.
PS: Happy Valentine's Day to my readers and also to my daughter, Dana-Marie, who celebrates a significant birthday on Valentine's Day.
Rev Devon Dick is pastor of the Boulevard Baptist Church in St Andrew. He is author of 'The Cross and the Machete', and 'Rebellion to Riot'. Send feedback to columns@ gleanerjm.com.