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Sweet talk

Published:Thursday | February 12, 2015 | 2:00 AM

THE MOST romantic time of year is fast approaching, and although many have been jaded by the commercialisation of St Valentine's Day, love still reigns supreme.

Food recently sat down to an al fresco brunch at Fromage Gourmet Market with five women - some engaged and some married for two to 15 years. The topic was that four letter word, and between sips of iced tea and hot chocolate, they shared their experiences of being in love.

Moderated by the inimitable Terri-Karelle Reid, herself married for almost seven years, they dished on balancing an active career, feeding their family a healthy diet, and the topic of adopting their husband's surname.


Kathryn Royes: engaged to Peter Lloyd (getting married in June 2015)

What's the best part about being engaged/married?

The best part about being engaged is that you're no longer just dating, and you now look to make long-term plans with the person you love.

Is taking his last name as important as it was a decade ago? Are you for or against this tradition?

I will be following tradition and adopting my fiancé's last name.


Dr Melanie Chin, wife to Craig Nehemiah for 2 years

What's the best part about being married?

Being able to spend a lot more time with your significant other has to be the best part for me.

What is the last thing your significant other did to make you feel extra special?

We both hate washing dishes and after a baking episode, I made a big mess and really didn't feel like cleaning up at the end of the night. I woke up the next day to an extra clean kitchen!


Kerry-Ann McKoy Tulloch, wife of Loxley Tulloch for 15 years

What's the best part about being engaged/ married?

The best part about being married is going through the transitions of life with one person that unconditionally has your back - from the lowest of lows to the highest of highs.

How do you handle it all and ensure everyone eats a healthy diet?

I love to cook, I love to make real soulful food for my family, and luckily, my four children have caught on. They love vegetables and will make you fruit salad with cucumbers!

Is taking his last name as important as it was a decade ago? Are you for or against this tradition?

Adopting my husband's surname has been at times a source of great confusion for my Latin America work colleagues, who recognise the second surname as my maiden name and thus not important enough to include on several documents - a source of mystery as most of my body of work is published with my maiden surname, and a source of stress from our local revenue collection agency with the many versions of my name (some of which do not even exist).

What is the last thing your significant other did to make you feel extra special?

My husband had an overseas business trip on the day of our 15th anniversary and there was no way he could get out of it, but he promised he would be home for midnight. He walked in at 11:45 p.m. just minutes before the end of the day. Unbeknown to me, he had a whirlwind adventure which involved nearly missing not one but two flights, lost luggage and a missing in action business partner. I'll never forget how proud he looked for staying true to his promise.


Tina Hamilton, wife of Richard Ashman for nine years

What is the last thing your significant other did to make you feel extra special?

The thing about Richard is that he knows me so well that he anticipates what I need even before I do. Recently, I had a particularly long day travelling all over the island for work and he planned ahead by turning off my alarm, and allowing me some extra time to sleep in, getting our daughter ready for school and preparing her lunch.

Is taking his last name as important as it was a decade ago? Are you for or against this tradition?

I chose not to change my last name because so much of my personal identity is still attached to it. My husband and I have adjusted to this but still get questions to this day about my decision. Years ago, I had promised that on our 10th wedding anniversary that is coming up this year, I would officially do the deed.


Natassian Brandon, fianceé of Daniel Jose Older (getting married in October 2015)

How do you handle it all and ensure that everyone has a healthy diet?

That is still a work in progress! I lost 10lb last year and when I went to see him for a month in December (we are in a long-distance relationship), I gained it all back! Too much jerk chicken!

What is the last thing your significant other did to make you feel extra special?

Not too long ago, I was feeling very low about the thought that Valentine's Day was coming around and I wouldn't' get the chance to see him. I said this to him and on the verge of tears he confessed that he had booked a ticket to Jamaica to surprise me.

What's the biggest lesson you've learnt since becoming married?

Although we're not yet married, my fiancé sent this message which I support: Picture your highest moment being a 10 then, your lowest low a one. Say you experienced a day that was 8, don't look at that day as less than or more than what you both have shared before. Take each day for what it is and appreciate the ones you get to spend together.