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Should my son attend his estranged father's funeral?

Published:Tuesday | July 22, 2014 | 12:00 AM

Orlean Brown-Earle, ask the doc

Q My son's father died last month. We had not seen him in five years and my son is eight. Should my son go to the funeral?

A It would be good for your son to go to the funeral so that he could meet his cousins and other family members. Even though there was a break in the relationship, your son should bond with the other members of the family.

Q I am planning to get married to a foreigner soon. My son will have to stay in Jamaica and board. I am worried about him boarding as he has only lived with me. He is 12 years old.

A You have two options. Either you find boarding for your son in a place you are comfortable until he can reside with you. You can communicate frequently through Skype and the telephone. Or, you can stay with your son until the documents have been processed for him and have your husband visit Jamaica regularly.

Q My son is planning to record a musical piece and copyright it. He is under 16, and my husband wants to put his name on the documents. My husband, who is also my son's father, has not given a cent to us in three years. I am afraid that he only wants to take away all the earnings. What do I do?

A You need to get a lawyer to protect your son's interests.

Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to editor@gleanerjm.com or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!