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Love Fulfills Dreams

Published:Wednesday | October 7, 2015 | 2:07 PM

Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart. - Psalm 37:4

Dreams and desires come in all shapes and sizes. But love takes careful note of each. How often do you ask yourself what your spouse would really love?

Love calls you to listen to what your partner is saying and hoping for; to remember the things that are unique to your relationship, the pleasures that bring a smile to the other's face; and to give when it would be a lot more convenient to wait. And love calls you to daydream about these opportunities so regularly that their desires become yours as well.

Last week, love corner explored how you can identify whether it is love or lust and, this week, we break down love fulfils dreams.

Common sense tells us we can't give our partner everything they might like, especially in this economic climate. And even if we could afford it - it might not be good for us or for them.

But perhaps, without thinking, you have allowed 'no' to be your natural response. What if instead of ignoring the thought, you did your best to honour it? What might happen if the one thing your partner said you would never do for them became the next thing you did?

It is OK to be extravagant, love calls for it sometimes - to go all out. Love sometimes needs to set aside the technicalities and just do something for your partner because it wants to.

Does love like this still exist after being in a relationship for a long time?

Your relationship might not be where you might want it, so your heart might not be in it. Well, how about putting your heart in it. How about developing a new level of love that actually wants to fulfil every dream and desire you possibly can.

Not everything your spouse wants has a hefty price tag. Not everything he or she desires can be bought with money. Your wife may really want your time. She may really want your attention. She may really want to be treated like a lady; to know that her husband considers her his greatest treasure. She may really want to see in your eyes a love that chooses to be there no matter what.

Your husband may really want your respect. He may really want you to acknowledge him as the head of the house in front of the children. He may really want you to put your arms around his neck for no apparent reason, surprising him with a long kiss or a love note when there's not even a birthday or anniversary to justify it. He may really need to know that you still think he's strong and handsome, the way you used to. God is your model. He's the One your love is designed to imitate. Though you were not a likely candidate for His love, He gave it anyway. He paid the price.

We dare you to think in terms of overwhelming your partner with love. To surprise him or her by exceeding all their expectations with your kindness. It may or may not be a financial sacrifice, but it needs to reflect a heart that is willing to express itself with extravagance.

Ask yourself what your partner would want if it were obtainable. It's time you started living out the answer to that question.

Commit this and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.