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Love Corner: Love Motivates

Published:Thursday | October 22, 2015 | 12:00 AM


Has your wife become hard to live with lately? Is her difficulty at getting over a disagreement wearing on your patience? Can she not just give it a rest?

Regardless, don't withhold your love just because she thinks differently from you. Love her "as to the Lord."

Is your husband tuning you out, not saying much, apparently brooding over something he's not interested in sharing? Do you feel hurt by his unwillingness to open up? Are you tired of him being so short with you, not even responding to the children the way he should? Regardless, don't hit back with a double dose of silence and inattention. Love him anyway, "as to the Lord".

This week's love corner reminds you that Love motivates no matter the circumstances.

It doesn't take much experience to realise that your partner will not always motivate your love. More often than you would like, it will seem difficult to find the inspiration to demonstrate your love. They may not even receive it when you try to express it. That's simply the nature of life, even in fairly healthy marriages.

It is stated in Colossians 3:18 that "Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord", and in Ephesians 5:25 it states that "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her".

The love that's demanded from you in your marriage is not dependent on your partner's sweetness or suitability. The love between a husband and wife should have one chief objective: honouring the Lord with devotion and sincerity.

This change of focus and perspective is crucial. Being able to wake up knowing that God is your source and supply - not just of your own needs but also those of your spouse - changes your whole reason for interacting with your partner.

No longer is it this imperfect person who decides how much love you will show, but rather it's your Omni-perfect God who can use even a flawed person like yourself to bestow loving favour on another.


Real motivation


Love motivated by mere duty cannot hold out for very long. And love that is only motivated by favourable conditions can never be assured of sufficient oxygen to keep it breathing. Only love that is lifted up as an offering to God - returned to Him in gratitude for all He's done - is able to sustain itself when all other reasons have lost their ability to energise us.

If you are committed to giving your spouse the best love you possibly can, you need to shoot for love's highest motivation. Love that has God as its primary focus is unlimited in the heights it can attain.

Before you see your spouse again today, pray for their needs, call them by name. Whether it comes easy for you or not, say "I love you," then express love to them in some tangible way. Go to God in prayer again, thanking Him for giving you the privilege of loving this one special person - unconditionally, the way He loves both of you.