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Letter of the day: On dying regrets

Published:Friday | November 13, 2015 | 12:00 AM


Bonnie Ware, a palliative care (care for the terminally ill) nurse, has put her observations into a book titled The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

Here are the top five regrets of the dying:

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

"This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled."

2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret."

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming."

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years."

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to themselves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again."

I (and many others), however, say that apart from tweaking some things here and there, I would not change anything in my life.

Sure, there have been failures, heartaches, pain and hard times but there have also been joy, successes, love, family and achievements. Moreover, altering anything would change the very person I am today.

However, what's your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?

Poor bank service

What gives regarding the reduced/poor service being meted out by the banks, in general, and especially to walk-in customers?

My guess is that the number of branches have decreased by over 20 per cent since the financial meltdown of the 1990s. This decrease is even more dramatic in certain areas, leaving the banking public underserved.

As an example, Scotiabank closed its Red Hills Road branch early in this millennium with customers being serviced through their Half-Way Tree Road branch. Recently, this has been further aggravated by the closure of their Premier branch at 10 Constant Spring Road. I conducted business at the bank's Half-Way Tree branch on a Tuesday (November 10), not a month end, and it was overflowing with customers.

I am sure most of you can point to other bank branches with similar challenges.

Egerton Chang