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Ask the doc: My pastor is all about young people

Published:Tuesday | September 1, 2015 | 12:00 AM

Q My eight-year-old does little work at school and will complete his schoolwork at home with me beside him. How do I change this behaviour?


A Have you asked your son why he does little academic work at school? Depending on the response you get, you may need to work with the teacher and give rewards or some type of positive reinforcement when he completes each bit of school work at school. The rewards must not be material. It may be a chart with stars or a hug.

Q My wife insists on taking my son to evening classes with her, even though we can afford a babysitter. He sits quietly in the back of the classroom, but I think he would be better off at home until 8 o' clock when she returns. Can you speak with her?


A Have you asked your wife why she prefers to have her son be with her? You both need to talk about how this may be affecting your son. Also, ask your son if he is happy waiting for his mother at her school.

Q My pastor is all about the young people and is now allowing them to control the music in the church. At 80, I cannot take the 7/11 songs. How do I work this out?


A You may ask for a meeting with the pastor and remind him that the church is made up of a mixture of individuals. Each group should be allowed to sing a variety of songs as they lead out.

- Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!