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Hello Mi Neighbour | Detoxing the ingratitude addict

Published:Thursday | April 27, 2017 | 12:00 AM

Hello mi neighbour! How does one help a needy neighbour afflicted by ingratitude? Without contradiction, ungratefulness is one of the worst expressions of unkindness! Present a dish of rice and peas and chicken to a dog and it will gladly and graciously gobble it up. Throw a meat bone and some leftovers on the ground and the same dog will also gladly gobble it up and be thankful. The behaviour of this creature gives credence to what research has shown: When it comes to ingratitude, some dogs are "boneless". For sure, dogs could teach us a thing or two.

Ingratitude in others is a turn off for even people who are uncontrollably kind at heart. It's an insult to the Creator and His creation. The Creator instructs all beneficiaries of a daily allowance of His breath - human beings - to "love their neighbours as themselves and to do unto others what they would others to do unto them". To carry out these instructions, kindness to others becomes an imperative. But how do we show kindness to someone who cannot appreciate it? Well, well.

Funnily, many of those persons who do not appreciate our generosity are usually in dire need of it. And when their attitude of ingratitude walls them off, they are audacious enough to claim that others are mean and stingy and are unwilling to help them out of their frequent predicament. Constantly seeing themselves as the "have nots" and others as the "haves", they seldom stop to think of the sacrifice connected with the acquisition of life's basic necessities.




But how do we really help to detox the "ingratitude addict", with whom we are acquainted? For sure, it's not to give them handouts, grant every favour that they may desire of us nor to ignore them. It may be more useful to turn the tables on them: give them a taste of their medicine, mimic their attitude toward them, etc., but you are creative enough to come up with some better strategies. Bottom line, we must help them.

Like it or not, we have a social duty to all humanity: good, bad and indifferent. And yes, we are all selfish creatures and couldn't care two hoots about what happens to others, but "a nuh suh dis ting guh", as a friend would say. Whenever we insulate and isolate ourselves from others because they are like a "pain in the neck", we run the risk of "paining the whole body". What do you think?

A little brawta of the Ten Commandments (not suggestions) handed to humanity on how to relate to God and man, six of them relate to man to man:

- you shall not murder

- you shall not commit adultery

- you shall not steal

- you shall not bear false witness against your neighbour

- you shall not covet your neighbour's house; you shall not covet your neighbour's wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbour's.

Think on these things and be grateful everyday.




- Mercedes, St Andrew, for household items

- Latoyer for contribution

- Dreie, St Catherine, for contributing to neighbour's welfare

- The United Pentecostal Church, Kingston, for contributing neighbours' welfare




- Neighbour asking for a bed, dresser and TV

- Andrea, St James, mother of 3 asking for a sewing machine

- Neighbour asking for bed linen for small bed

- Maxine, Hanover, needs a sewing machine

- Sister Dell, St Andrew, asking for a bed

- Neighbour, Single mother of 4 asking for food, clothing and help with dental problems.

- Sharon, Kidney patient urgently needs help... heart is now affected, feet are swollen and painful

- Larnet, Clarendon, asking neighbours for assistance to send children to school. Also needs clothing for them

- Neighbour asking for a crib or a play pen

- Student having difficulty preparing SBAs and other work ... asking for a 2nd hand laptop.

- To help, please call 334-8165, 884-3866, or deposit to acct # 351 044 276 NCB. (Bank routing #: JNCBJMKX) or send donations to HELLO NEIGHBOUR c/o 53 Half Way Tree Road, Kingston 10; Paypal/credit card: email: Or contact e-mail