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Problem with my married boyfriend

Published:Monday | July 10, 2017 | 12:00 AM

Q I got involved with a married man which led to us having a child together. We used to spend a lot of time together because we would eat lunch as a group at work. I love him and I thought he loved me and would eventually leave his wife. The relationship is now 11 years old and the child is eight years old. I realise that leaving his wife and her children is not on the cards, unless the wife dies. However, what I am finding difficult to deal with is the lack of time with our daughter. Nowadays we get intimate only on special occasions or if I beg him for it. However, he does not want the three of us to be seen in public together and that hurts me. Furthermore, he is getting his wife involved in buying clothes and other things for my child. I believe that we should go together and buy the things. Am I being unreasonable?

A Yes you are being unreasonable. You went into a relationship with a married man and that is unreasonable. His wife did not do anything to you. It is equally unreasonable to expect that you will be a family going to the park together and shopping together. You have been unreasonable to your daughter by intentionally depriving her of a stable family life. You are unreasonable and selfish to be still in a sexual relationship with this married man. Look what you have come to! Begging a married man to have sex with you. And he is no better than you. He has an awesome wife who will shop for a child belonging to her husband. And for God's sake do not wish death on the man's wife! You are a most unreasonable woman.