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SEX & RELATIONSHIP - How to get out more this year!

Published:Monday | January 11, 2010 | 12:00 AM

The year 2010 is still fairly new and with any year still in its infancy, (yes, even this one), comes renewed optimism.

Part of starting off a new year is to break out of the same ol' same ol' routine of being a homebody. So, if Friday and Saturday nights are stay-at-home-and-watch-TV nights, you might want to get out more this year (yes, recession and all).

But, like any good plan, you've got to think it through before you carry it out. So here's the thinking part.

Know who you are

Think carefully about what you're comfortable with and identify some boundaries.

Plan your destination

Know what you want to accomplish, whether making new friends or finding the spouse.

Be positive

Don't say "it won't work". If you go in with a negative mindset, your head won't be clear and you won't spot the chances when they come. Plus, it's just bad karma.

Be realistic

If you believe you're going to go from introvert to 'casanova' or 'casanovette', it may not happen.

Don't overthink

If you start wondering what you'll wear, where you're going to find parking space and all that other stuff, you'll never go anywhere; literally.

Ok, now we've got through the mind games, let's get physical.

Try a new place

With more cafés, lounges and other places of entertainment/leisure opening up, you're not short of options. So the little corner bar within walking distance of your house is not going to cut it. You've probably never met anyone there anyway.

Don't fly solo

Going by yourself to a new venue is not a good idea because even if you do pull yourself out of the house, actually introducing yourself to strangers is another matter. We all know at least one party animal, so tag along with him/her.

Try new stuff

We don't mean hooking up for a one-night stand. But if you're the sit-in-the-corner-and-watch type, try dancing. Don't worry if you have two left feet, half the folks on the dance floor can't really 'move' either.

Don't overdo it

There's a lyme or some similar activity for every night of the week. But it's not recommended you attend every one. The money issue should probably curb that anyway.

Keep it going

When you do make new acquaintances (and human nature dictates you will), keep the link. Call them up, Facebook them, Twitter, whatever. And, if you're not on these networks, sign up!