Giving hubby what he wants
The Soloist, Contributor
I recently read one of the always fascinating letters to the doctor who pens this newspaper's Sunday Outlook's popular 'Doctor's Advice' column. It was from a woman who wanted to know how to handle her husband's unusual sexual request.
You see, she was under the illusion that theirs was a happy marriage and the sex life was great. Not so at all. He wanted to "spice things up" and that meant her performing oral sex on his best friend while he watched.
Now, first of all, if my husband wanted to see another penis in the same bed/room/house/zip code, with his, I would be seriously perturbed. I could understand a request for my going at it with another woman (would not do that either), while he watched. Lord knows, most men entertain this fantasy, but with a guy?! Noooo!
So, what is the most unusual thing a man has ever asked you to do in bed? My former Guyanese boyfriend's fantasy was to make love to me while I was wearing nothing but a pair of red four-inch high stilettoes. I found it rather interesting and secretly set about to file that request for the appropriate time. And with my special touches, of course.
I was living in California at the time, so I made a special trip to the famous Fredrick's of Hollywood and found the hot red high heels. Choosing his birthday some months later, I set the stage: I told him dinner would be special so come at eight. I chilled wine, selected mood music, took a leisurely bubble bath, massaged myself with the right lotions, made up my face to look like a lady of the night (complete with crimson lipstick and a mole near the upper lip, wrapped on a black lace shawl sarong style, put on the red killer heels, then poured myself a glass of wine and sipped as I waited.
The music was low and slow and the only light in the apartment glowed red from a lamp in one corner. I heard his car, got up and unlocked the door. When he knocked I said, "it's open" and as he pushed it, he saw me seated, legs crossed with the requested high heels prominently displayed. Eyeing the total package, he said, "Oh my God." I said, "don't call Him just yet."
He grabbed the wine and downed it, loosened the shawl and said, "I only requested the red heels." I said, "It's your birthday." Well to say there were fireworks within my walls that night would be an understatement. The point is, guys, there are many fascinating ways to spice up the bedroom and you don't need a third party. Just stretch the imagination and know your partner very well. These scenarios can get out of control and lead to regret. Plus these days, someone might just have a recording device and before you know it, a porn star is born.
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