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My daughter cries for everything

Published:Tuesday | March 27, 2012 | 12:00 AM

Q. I have a six-year-old daughter who cries for almost everything, even trivial stuff, and throws tantrums. It makes me quite irritable at times. I have tried many approaches, including ignoring her, but she continues unabated. She has two other siblings, one younger and the other older. The younger one sometimes cries easily just like her. She will cry because you give her a meal she doesn't want.

A. Now it is time to test your mental strength. Once you recognise your child will not be harmed, be very patient. Get busy doing another activity. Wait her out. You have to be firm and not allow her to manipulate you. Remember the other children are watching to see you manage this situation so that they will know how to manipulate you or whether they should try. Try your best not to be busy at meal times so the family can sit together. Let the children see you eat the same food they are given and find fun ways to present and eat your meals.

Q. My 16-year-old is ready for college and is a smart boy. His father thinks he should stay close to home for another year. He is our only son. we have three daughters. I think my husband is being overprotective. How can I convince him to let go?

A. Your son should not be held back if he is smart and has the potential to succeed academically. Conduct some research into living accommodation for your son at the college and see if you can find accommodation that will be comfortable and safe. You can possibly plan for your son to come home on weekends, or the family can visit him on alternate weekends.

Q. My wife has chosen a job where she is away from home at least half of the month. She travels to shop for her business and does conference planning. The children and I miss her terribly. They are 10 and seven. The housekeeper, who is in her 50s, is now our best friend. We need the money, as I only do contract work, but I am wondering if it is worth it.

A. Is it possible for you to work with your wife in the business, so you will spend more time together? This may also help her to be home more often.

Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behaviour problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to helpline@gleanerjm.com or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always!

You have to be firm now and not allow her to manipulate you.