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Let's talk Life

Published:Saturday | April 7, 2012 | 12:00 AM

Yvonnie Bailey- Davidson, Contributor

Dear Counsellor,

I am working and parenting four children. I am feeling very stressed and don't know what to do.

- Rosemarie

Dear Rosemarie,

Child-rearing is a challenging task, but is rewarding. Sometimes life seems problematic, but you need to pray and have faith.We don't have all the answers, but you need to persevere. Where is the father of the children? Child-rearing needs the help of both parents and grandparents. Baby sitting duties need to be shared. Don't give up hope because the children will be grown soon. In a few years, the house will be empty as the children will be out in the world seeking their fortune.

Children are a blessing from God and He will help with them. Time management and problem solving are important tools. Share baby-sitting duties and carpool with your neighbours. Let the children help in the house according to their ages.

Teen daughter giving trouble

Dear Counsellor,

I have a teenage daughter and she is giving a lot of problems. Her school work is below standard.

- Grace

Dear Grace,

The teen years can be problematic. Teenagers test the limits and tend to be confrontational. You need to lay down the rules and consequences for bad behaviour. Teens want to experiment, but do not think of the outcome. There are HIV/AIDS, pregnancy, substance abuse and criminality. Her future is in jeopardy and she needs to be doing better. Take her to a psychiatrist to be assessed.

Teens need to learn risk management and problem solving and decision-making skills. She needs to set goals for herself and work towards them.

Mother suffering from dementia

Dear Counsellor,

My mother has early dementia and she is depressed.

- Marva

Dear Marva,

Dementia is a chronic disorder and gets progressively worse. It is natural to feel depressed about this condition. Depression is treatable, but your mother needs loving support. You need to reassure her that you will be there to assist in her later years. She may be fearful and combative. This is because she realises that she is losing control of herself and the environment seems changed.

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