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Give someone a confidence boost

Published:Wednesday | April 18, 2012 | 12:00 AM

HELLO MI neighbour! Stick a pin. Whose spirit have you boosted lately, especially in these tough times?

Do you know that we have an inalienable duty to boost the spirits of others as we help them to enjoy life more fulsomely? Well, well. Been so since the dawn of creation! And there are myriads of ways to accomplish this. It doesn't necessarily take cash or great sacrifices. Just a simple compliment can work wonders!

Compliments build self-esteem and create great and exciting neighbours - not only those next door, but those we meet in the streets daily. If you want a neighbour to improve on anything, start complimenting him or her.

Pause, pause, I must share this with you: I am sitting in my car at one of my favourite spots observing people and writing this article. I am overhearing an elderly lady telling her friend (as they enter their car) that she just saw a sprucely dressed gentleman in the shop and complimented him heartily on his appearance. The gentleman thanked her equally heartily. Not hearing what she is saying about his further response, but it was sufficient for both ladies to give a healthy, hearty laugh, pulling out of the car park. Thanks for confirming the value of compliments, ladies!

Continuing with my point, whatever you compliment your neighbour on usually sees improvement. The sensible thing to do, therefore, is not to badmouth or cuss out your neighbours about anything, but to pick something to compliment them on and watch (in the words of my friend Glen Bromfield) "lime become lemonade" - the negative being replaced by the positive.

Seriously speaking, we can put out many fires in the home and community with these five simple words: "You are looking wonderful today." This statement is not the result of any study. It's simply being aware of human behaviour. We thrive on compliments, especially in intimate relationships. They are foundational to our happiness. The home where neither wife nor husband compliments each other will soon become a place of misery.

Stop for a minute

So the wife goes to the store and picks out that fancy dress for that special occasion, hoping that it will elicit compliments from her partner. On their way out, he doesn't see the dress. He is blinded by the fact that they will be late for the play - because she is always late. Oh please! How will that evening turn out? How will his attitude affect their relationship? Be wise.

We all possess the capacity to receive and offer compliments. That's one of the most valuable and least expensive ways to build good relationships and great neighbourhoods. Put selfishness and arrogance aside and make life less complicated by complimenting others. While you are at it, please note some of those items in this column which will help to complement the lives of others. I compliment you on choosing to read this column today, and your willingness to help others!

Thanks for helping

1. Neighbour, Manchester, for lending a hospital bed to a 99-year-old neighbour.

2. Ms Salmon, St Elizabeth, for helping neighbour to purchase glasses.

3. William, St Andrew, for contributing to a child's school fee - St Andrew.

4. Neighbour, for offering to cut neighbour's lawn free of cost.

5. Neighbour, for donation of clothing to two-year-old.

6. Neighbour, for donating school shoes to a child.

Opportunities to help

Stacy-Ann, Mandeville, single mother of two boys and starting life all over. Asking for a double bunk bed for the boys.

Neighbour, Hanover, blind and in need of a bed from a Hanover neighbour ... now sleeps on a piece of sponge.

Maureen, St Catherine, asking neighbour for a second-hand wardrobe.

Ms Brown, St Ann, needs a second-hand refrigerator to store medication ... cannot afford one.

Charmaine, Manchester, single mother, asking for neighbours help to purchase glasses and eye drops.

Veronica, 72, asking neighbours for a small CD player and a one-burner hotplate.

To help us, please call 334-8165, 884-3866, 299-3412 or deposit to acct # 351 044 276 NCB. (Bank routing #: JNCBJMKX) or send donations to Hello Neighbour C/o 53 Half-Way Tree Road, Kingston 10; email