Modelling adult behaviour
Q: Why do little children like to dress up and play with adults clothes?
Children are simply modelling what they see as correct behaviour. When Mommy wears high-heel shoes and seems happy doing it, it must be OK to do so. When Daddy asks for his favourite tie or shirt and even talks about how he loves a particular piece of clothing, he is telling his child that his behaviour is quite appropriate. All children will want to imitate what is seen as the right thing to do.
Accepting different cultures
Q: My daughters, ages 15 and 17, are very concerned about women in other countries who seemingly have no rights. They have become passionate about this and seem to be seeking ways to educate the world about human rights. How can I stop them from going too far?
You have taught your daughters to respect others and they think that all persons should do this. Remind them that different persons from different cultures have different perspectives and we should not force people to accept other people's beliefs. We should spend the time educating each other.
On 'having out your lot'
Q: I was horrified when I saw a woman on TV in this modern time stating that all women must "have out their lot", even when she had no money to feed her children. Can the Government get an education programme going to educate women like this so our children do not suffer?
We all come from different belief systems and will never all agree. I do think that a social worker could approach this woman and let her know the benefits of having only the number of children that one can afford to care for.
Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, psychologist, Jamaica.