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Break the cycle of sexual addiction

Published:Monday | June 25, 2012 | 12:00 AM
Apostle Steve Lyston

Apostle Steve Lyston, Contributor

Sexual Addiction is eating away the society and the nation! It negatively affects the economy and propels wrong choices and poor decisions. Sexual addiction can be so strong that it can even cause wars to begin.

Sexual addiction comes as a result of adultery, fornication, incest, masturbation, homosexuality, lesbianism, sadomasochism, paedophilia, lust, phone or Internet sex, and the use of artificial instruments.

Sexual perversion cannot be dealt with by legislation or therapy. Perversion is a stronghold that often starts in the mother's womb (Psalms 51: 5; 2 Corinthians 10). Strongholds pass from one generation to the next when they have not been addressed.

This stronghold attacks those who are destined for greatness. Its mandate is to terminate their God-given purpose. Most who are trapped in perversion will tell you that they want to do good, but they are trapped, and because sex is such a private issue, most are afraid to discuss their struggle, or confide in someone. Even in marriages, they are afraid to discuss it with their partner. It affects their marriage and turns them off completely from sex.

Dealing With The Root cause

To deal with perversion, we must deal with the root cause. The root often stems from childhood. Sometimes just playing 'dolly-house' or 'cousin and cousin boil good soup' opens the door for sexual perversion. A child who has been raped, been a victim of incest, been fondled, or was born out of wedlock, as well as persons who have had abortions, all have this stronghold.

What explanation do we give to a child who has 'wet dreams', or who dreams that he is having sex with someone? These are signs that there is perversion within the family line.

Strongholds can also be transferred, and sex is a method of transference. Sex joins souls to each other and is a binding agreement (soul-tie). So when one loses his/her virginity, a binding agreement takes place; and if it occurs out of wedlock, and there is a separation (break up) and then marriage takes place to someone else, then there is trouble in the marriage. Many married couples today will tell you that they cannot get 'turned on' unless they watch some kind of pornography or sexually explicit scene.

When one lies with a harlot/prostitute or several sex partners, one also becomes one flesh with the person with whom one sleeps. (1 Corinthians 6: 16)

To be free from sexual addiction, one must admit to the problem and that it is wrong. One has to walk away from anything that seems perverted. Remember, sex is a covenant! It is more than a physical experience! It involves a communion of lives, and since Christ is one with the believer's spirit, it is unthinkable to be involved in immorality.

Sexual intercourse involves our whole being. It has far-reaching effects with great spiritual significance and social complications. Sexual behaviour involves self-identity. When an individual is involved in this sin, he sins against his body, (1 Corinthians 6: 18) and it leaves the individual open to disease. Some people may be going to the gym to get healthy, but if they do that while engaged in sexual addiction, then they are defeating the purpose.

What To Do To Be Free

You must admit that it is wrong and walk away from it.

You must be disciplined. Deliverance is a process. You must keep away from the old places, old lovers. Stop texting, calling, and keep away from websites and social networks that foster or encourage sexual perversion. Remember, it is a yoke, and yokes can be destroyed by going into God's presence or speaking with a genuine deliverance minister.

Be open with your partner and tell him/her what you have been through. Pray together and agree in prayer.

Have daily communion at home and renounce and confess your sins before God.

Forgive! Forgive those who have raped or abused you. Bless those that curse you.

Stay away from groups that are involved in perversion, even if they are Christians or are close to you. (1 Corinthians 5: 11)

Be careful who lies in your marital bed!

Don't engage in threesomes and orgies.

Where you have been molested by family members, tell it to your parents (if they are alive) - even if you are now an adult!

Confess Psalm 51 and declare Psalm 91 daily.

Apostle Steve Lyston is a biblical cconomics consultant and author of several books including 'End Time Finance' and 'The New Millionaire'.