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I am afraid to send my child to college!

Published:Tuesday | June 3, 2014 | 12:00 AM

Orlean Brown-Earle, ask the doc

I am concerned about college shootings. I am thinking about sending my 19-year-old to college, but think that an online college might be better for his safety. What do you think?

A: It is important to be concerned for your child's safety, but you must remember that your child may be harmed in almost any environment. You need to teach your child to be proactive regarding his safety issues wherever he is.

The school my son attends has an awards programme for academic achievement. It is a small school; just about 90 children, and they give everyone an award. I find the programme tedious every year, and I am contemplating not attending. Can I recommend to the principal to change the format?

A: It is great that the school ensures that all children receive awards for the effort that they have put into their work. This is a great motivator. Take the time off from work and help in the awards programme. Your children will be proud of their parent's support of the school programme.

I am a single parent who is determined that I will send my child to a public school for high school, but my mother, who helps to sponsor my children, insists that they go to the church's high school. She says she prefers for them to have low-level jobs and be good Christians than be high officials and be corrupt. Public schools have more facilities for the children. How can I convince her otherwise?

A: You both have valid points, but your final decision would also rest on your belief system. You need to sit with your mother and discuss the issue when the time is right. Remember, you do not know which school your child will be placed in when the Grade Six Achievement Test results are sent to the schools. Wait until you know this before you continue any further discussions with your mother.

Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Dr Brown-Earle works with children with learning and behavioural problems throughout the island and in the Caribbean. Email questions to or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Pray always.