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Enhancing sexual performance

Published:Saturday | July 12, 2014 | 12:00 AM

This is a very popular topic, as sexual performance is so important to our self-esteem, especially men.

It, of course, means different things between each gender, and even among members of the same gender. Poor sexual performance can put a serious strain on a relationship and often causes its demise, and may contribute to unfaithfulness.

In a male-oriented society, the burden of sexual performance is on the male, as for sex to occur, the man must achieve and maintain a strong enough erection for penetration. There are, of course, other important factors that contribute to sexual performance.

Both men and women should be capable of preparing each other for sexual intercourse. This, of course, requires them to be skilled at foreplay. They should be able to use almost every part of their anatomy, but particularly their hands and tongue - especially in this age where oral sex is becoming increasingly popular and important.

Sexual attractiveness

They need to be physically and mentally fit, agile, confident, and knowledgeable. Some persons even use objects, including food and clothes, in their sex play. Deficiencies in this area can be improved through effort, learning and experience.

Sexual attractiveness is also important. A personal observation is that the very things that indicate that we will do well at our traditional gender roles in the home are the very things that make us sexually attractive. That is, the traditional male role is provider, and a well-toned muscular man is usually sexually attractive.

Whereas, a non-obese woman with fair-sized breasts, wide hips and fair-sized buttocks is usually found sexually attractive and may give her advantage in her traditional role as child-bearer and homemaker.

Negative factors

Factors that would have a negative effect on sexual performance include illnesses like diabetes, hypertension, respiratory problems like asthma, heart conditions, hormonal problems, kidney problems, nervous system problems, and liver problems. Obesity and aging can also negatively affect it.

Some medications like antihypertensives and antidepressants are also frequent culprits. Cigarette smoking and alcohol abuse may also be factors, and psychological problems like performance anxiety, depression, stress, relationship problems, and post-traumatic stress disorder.

Fortunately, erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation can be treated with medications. Medical problems should be controlled as best as possible. Communication should be optimised to improve relationship challenges, and relaxation techniques used when appropriate. Hormonal therapy may be necessary. Herbs like sarsaparilla and Siberian ginseng may also help.